A Spy’s SECRETS To Sleep, Recovery, Fitness, Nutrition & Relationships, With Former *Covert* CIA Officer Andrew Bustamante, “The EverdaySpy”

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What I Discuss with Andrew Bustamante:

  • Introduction to Andrew Bustamante, a former CIA intelligence officer and founder of EverydaySpy.com—his background, the CIA recruitment process, and his transition from the Air Force to the CIA…05:51
  • How he cannot divulge specific details about his CIA operations due to a lifetime secrecy agreement, but his company EverydaySpy.com focuses on teaching general CIA skills and tactics for personal and professional enhancement…09:41
  • How it is possible to defeat a polygraph by understanding and manipulating the polygrapher (rather than the machine)…11:32
  • Andrew has never participated in a polysomnography sleep test, and he emphasizes that CIA officers are prohibited from using wearables—due to the risk of signals being tracked or hacked…16:26
  • Biohacking for CIA officers, which focuses on practical recovery after operations, involving sleep, rest, balanced diets, tailored exercise routines, and medical treatments…18:19
  • How elements from his CIA recovery routines, like using L-theanine for anxiety, a balanced electrolyte drink, and magnesium supplements, have influenced his current practices for managing stress and maintaining health…22:25
  • Andrew Bustamante’s pre-sleep routine—which involves avoiding screens and new information 90 minutes before sleep…27:40
  • Why THC and diazepam aren't recommended sleep aids…34:41
  • Andrew’s mindful morning routine—waking up naturally without an alarm, hydrating with 500 milliliters of water, and engaging in a form of Transcendental Meditation…36:59
  • Fragmented journaling approach to capture and analyze his thoughts, then organize these into dashboards for review…41:51
  • Using hydration, whole foods, and natural nutrients to avoid relying on stimulants…44:29
  • Walking, running, and yoga to increase heart rate and improve joint flexibility…48:22
  • Practical fitness and nutrition tips at EverydaySpy…50:44
  • Breaking workout patterns can prevent stagnation and enhance both physical results and overall enthusiasm…55:25
  • Practicing empathy through perspective—understanding and listing what others care about—can deeply enhance relationships…58:59
  • Teaching children to make choices early on builds the foundation for responsible decision-making and aligns well with approaches like Love and Logic (educating kids to make informed choices independently)—you can also discover more about this type of parenting in my book, Boundless Parenting…1:02:01
  • How EverydaySpy offers a range of resources including free downloads, blog content, and in-depth multi-week programs, helping people apply espionage techniques to improve their businesses, careers, and relationships…1:05:56

In today’s episode, you'll get to dive into a world few ever get to see…

I'm joined by Andrew Bustamante, a former CIA intelligence officer and the founder of EverydaySpy.com. Andrew’s journey from the Air Force to the CIA is a story of transformation, grit, and adapting elite skills to everyday life. In our conversation, you'll uncover the intricacies of the CIA recruitment process, Andrew’s transition into this high-stakes world, and how his experiences have shaped the way he approaches life and business today.

Andrew Bustamante is a former covert CIA intelligence officer, decorated military combat veteran, successful Fortune 10 corporate advisor, and a proud husband and father. After 20 years running human and technical intelligence operations for private and government clients worldwide, Andrew founded EverydaySpy.com—the first-ever digital spy training platform. Headlining both US and international media, Andrew’s training events have been praised for their innovative, authentic, and life-changing impact. When he isn’t giving interviews, running spy exercises, or supporting private intelligence contracts, Andrew lives with his wife (also an ex-CIA officer) and his two children in western Colorado.

Now, while Andrew can’t reveal the specifics of his covert operations due to a lifetime secrecy agreement, he’s got a treasure trove of general CIA skills and tactics that he shares through his platform, EverydaySpy.com. In our episode together, you’ll discover how these espionage techniques can enhance your personal and professional life. We even delve into the fascinating topic of polygraphs—did you know it's possible to beat one by focusing on the polygrapher rather than the machine itself?

Andrew will also reveal why biohacking is a necessity for those in high-stress fields like espionage. He discusses the practical recovery routines he developed while on operations, focusing on sleep, nutrition, and tailored exercise. He also shares some of his go-to practices for managing stress and maintaining peak health, like the use of L-theanine for anxiety and magnesium supplements. His pre-sleep and morning routines are meticulously designed to optimize recovery and performance, providing you with actionable tips to incorporate into your own life.

For more information, you can visit EverydaySpy.com, which offers a wealth of resources, from free downloads to in-depth programs, all designed to help you apply espionage techniques to improve your career, relationships, and overall life. From the importance of variety in workouts to the benefits of understanding and listing what others care about to enhance relationships, this episode is packed with wisdom—join us as we explore these incredible insights and more!

 

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Ben Greenfield [00:00:00]: My name is Ben Greenfield, and on this episode of the Ben Greenfield Life podcast.

Andrew Bustamante [00:00:04]: CIA officers, the big challenge for us happens immediately after we come back from an operation. Our version of biohacking comes into play when we return from the operation, and we have to recover because that recovery time is critical to our operational utility. If we take too long to recover, we become less operationally viable.

Ben Greenfield [00:00:24]: And what does optimal recovery look like?

Andrew Bustamante [00:00:27]: A lot of sleep. We have exercise scientists, so we get balanced diets, balanced supplements, along with tailored exercise routines that are aligned with our biology, our age, our hormone levels. They know us very well, so they create these tailored programs for us to get us back up to operational utility.

Ben Greenfield [00:00:50]: Fitness, nutrition, biohacking, longevity, life optimization, spirituality, and a whole lot more. Welcome to the Ben Greenfield Life Show. Are you ready to hack your life?

Ben Greenfield [00:01:03]: Let's do this. Well, folks, I don't know if I've ever interviewed a spy, but I have a friend who's a former podcast guest, Adam Wengauer. I think he's been on the podcast maybe three times. A friend of mine lives down in Florida. He runs a CBD company down there. A great man of adventure and a good father and a husband. And anytime he texts me an intro to somebody who he thinks would be cool for me to meet for a slash interview, my ears perk up. He texted me about this guy named Andrew Bustamante, and he said, oh, this guy, he's really, really good at marriage, homeschooling, and biohacking.

Ben Greenfield [00:01:48]: Oh, and he is a former covert CIA intelligence officer, military combat veteran, and corporate advisor to Fortune 10 companies and also a husband and a father. So I thought, gosh, I should interview this dude. His name's Andrew Bustamante. He founded Everydayspy.com, which is a digital spy trading platform which I actually want to learn a lot more about. And he's, yeah, basically a former spy, I suppose. Is that how you like to introduce yourself, Andrew?

Andrew Bustamante [00:02:21]: Yeah, former CIA intelligence officer is the more official terminology there, but yeah, you got it, man. And Adam's a great dude, and it's flattering to know that you've got friends like that who advocate for you.

Ben Greenfield [00:02:35]: Yeah, he's a good guy. I have to admit that his CBD sometimes knocks me on my ass, but take an extra dropper full of it. But he's a good guy nonetheless. And he hunts pigs and alligators. So how do you like that? So I want to talk about you. How do you even become a CIA officer? Like, what's the recruitment process for that?

Andrew Bustamante [00:02:55]: Look, like, yeah, I mean, it's actually a little bit different for everybody. But for me specifically, I was leaving the Air Force, and I was looking to go into a government role that was more in the, like, humanitarian sector. And in that transition process, I was kind of scooped up and invited to interview with the CIA.

Ben Greenfield [00:03:15]: Okay, so you go in, you interview with the CIA, and do you know what you're getting into? Like, had you thought in the past, whether it's when you were a little kid or in the Air Force or whatever, that you wanted to be a spy?

Andrew Bustamante [00:03:27]: I mean, everybody, I assume that every little kid at some point thinks to themselves, I want to be a spy. I want to be a fireman, I want to be a police officer, something like that.

Ben Greenfield [00:03:36]: Or the president. For me, I was the president and I think short time police officer.

Andrew Bustamante [00:03:41]: Yeah. Right. So we've all been there, but that doesn't mean that it's a realistic thought. So it's really funny because I had a brief when I went to a military academy, I went to the Air Force Academy for college. And there was a brief time when I was at the academy, me, when I thought maybe I'd want to be an intelligence officer. But the Air Force is not. The Air Force is the military. So they decide where you go.

Andrew Bustamante [00:04:04]: And to a certain extent, you start to believe that maybe they know you better than you know yourself. So when the Air Force decided that I was not going to be an intelligence officer, I kind of saw that as a hint that maybe I shouldn't do that kind of thing. So I was really surprised when, you know, six years later, CIA tapped me on the shoulder and said, hey, you might actually be a very good fit for clandestine intelligence, or what some people call covert intelligence. And that's where it went from there, there's a whole series of interviews. It's not like a one-time interview. There's like a. The first round of interviews is an interview, typical to a normal job search, but then there's a second a third, and a fourth round of interviews. One of those is nothing but psychological tests and intelligence tests.

Andrew Bustamante [00:04:47]: Another one of those is scenario tests I and briefings or interviews by a board. So by the time they actually say yes to hiring you, they know exactly where they want to put you, so you don't really find out what they're thinking of you to do until much later in the process, are you allowed?

Ben Greenfield [00:05:06]: To talk about the type of things that you do or did in the CIA or any interesting stories that kind of highlight what type of job you had.

Andrew Bustamante [00:05:16]: Yeah, there's. We have a lifetime secrecy agreement that we sign. According to that secrecy agreement, our personal operational histories, meaning the operations that we did, the sources that we used, the technology that we applied, all of those things remain classified until we get approval from the CIA to have those things declassified and we can share them publicly. So when it comes to my specific background, I'm very, very limited, which is why my company is focused on taking non specific skills and tactics and tools that the CIA uses for all operations. That's the big benefit about being able to talk about my background at CIA. It's not about me and the secrets I stole. It's really about what the tools and techniques and tactics are that all CIA officers use to optimize mind, body, and health.

Ben Greenfield [00:06:09]: So is that how you describe everyday spy? Like you're taking CIA skills and applying them to the general population for enhancement in communication or relationships or something like that?

Andrew Bustamante [00:06:19]: Yeah, exactly right. I mean, our mission is spy education, to break barriers for everybody willing to learn. So it's all about taking spy skills, spy knowledge, spy tools, and using them to break barriers in your personal life, your professional life, your career, your business. And we understand, I fully understand, that there's eight out of ten people out there don't trust CIA, or they think I'm some kind of secret plant or some sort of, like, influence operation to infiltrate american public media, who knows what? But there's plenty of people out there who won't listen, which is why we add on at the end, anyone who is willing to listen, we will teach them something.

Ben Greenfield [00:06:56]: Okay, number one burning question. You've probably been asked this before, but the first thing that comes to mind, is Andrew. So I'm just going to ask it. Can you teach someone how to pass a lie detection test?

Andrew Bustamante [00:07:05]: So this is a great question. There's so much that people don't understand about a lie detection test, which is called a polygraph. So a polygraph is a measure against a baseline. That's really how the test works. It's not like a yes, no, black, white, ones, and zeros type of test. So, yes, you can learn how to defeat a polygraph. But the actual way that you defeat a polygraph isn't about defeating the machine. It's about defeating the polygrapher, the actual trained technician who is reading the machine.

Andrew Bustamante [00:07:40]: And that is a much, much more difficult task than people realize, which is why I never advocate for trying to defeat a polygraph. It is actually better to be brutally, painfully honest during a polygraph than to even try to make stuff up because the machine will show the polygrapher all the variations from the baseline. So if you're painfully honest, that creates a more difficult polygraph for the polygrapher to translate. Because let's be honest, Ben, being honest is way harder on, like, your physiology than actually telling lies.

Ben Greenfield [00:08:18]: Yeah, that may well, actually. What do you mean by that? Being honest is way harder on your physiology than telling lies.

Andrew Bustamante [00:08:24]: So think about it. When, when you're sitting with your wife or you're sitting with your kids or you're sitting with your in-laws or even a close friend, and you're being vulnerable, really being honest. What's happening to your body? Your blood pressure is spiking. Your body temperature is increasing. You're feeling fidgety. You're stumbling over your words. Your. Your mind-to-mouth muscle connection starts to kind of fail.

Andrew Bustamante [00:08:46]: You, like, your, your head starts moving in all these different directions as you're trying to decipher what you want to say, in which order you want to say it, et cetera, et cetera. Well, all of those are indicators. According to the polygraph, those are all physiological indicators that it's measuring where a lie is much easier on the body because a lie might create a small spike in blood pressure, but it won't create all the nervous energy that you get from actually telling a painfully, like, sensitive truth.

Ben Greenfield [00:09:16]: That's actually really surprising to me. That's a news flash for me. I would have expected lying to induce a more pronounced physiological response, but it sounds like a polygraph is indicating that's not the case.

Andrew Bustamante [00:09:27]: Associate a polygraph with, like, a car maintenance 52-point inspection. Right? You drive your car into the auto shop. They'll plug a little plug into your CPU for your cardinal, and then they'll press a button. And that one button will measure.

Ben Greenfield [00:09:47]: All.

Andrew Bustamante [00:09:48]: Of the core digital processes in your car, and it'll determine whether or not you've got the right oil pressure, whether you've got the right tire pressure, whether your belt is running behind schedule, or whether your pistons are all firing in line. It's measuring 52 points of automated digital capability simultaneously. The polygraph is essentially the same thing for the human body, only instead of plugging in a single port, they sit you down in a single chair. But then they have a sensor under your rear end, literally, to measure the pressure in your sphincter and the movement in your legs and your glutes. They put a blood pressure cuff around your arm, and they put blood pressure cuffs and heart rate monitors around your fingers, and then they put some probes around your forehead, they're measuring multiple data points simultaneously. But when you and I and the average person tells a lie, there's only a few of those contact points that will come to life. Not all of them. But when you tell the truth, especially if it's a difficult truth, all of those nodes kind of come to life.

Andrew Bustamante [00:10:57]: So you end up showing very significant variance for a truth that's difficult or sensitive than you do for a lie.

Ben Greenfield [00:11:05]: Got it. So we're already going to be lit up like a Christmas tree, so to speak, telling the truth. But the detection of a lie would indicate that some of those lights start blinking a little bit differently.

Andrew Bustamante [00:11:16]: Right. And that's exactly what a polygrapher is trained to do. A polygrapher is trained to see the variances that indicate what they call sensitivity. Again, it's called a polygraph. It's not called a lie detector in the actual profession, but in common vernacular, we call it a lie detector. It's not designed to detect a lie. It's designed to detect sensitivity to a certain question.

Ben Greenfield [00:11:41]: Right, right. It's really a physiological measurement tool.

Andrew Bustamante [00:11:44]: Bingo. It's a body optimization tool to measure a variance from baseline.

Ben Greenfield [00:11:49]: I'm curious. I imagine that you actually did get a polygraph yourself. What about a polysomnography? I believe it's called a sleep test, in which you're actually hooked up to a bunch of data that's collecting sleep architecture parameters. Have you ever done one of those?

Andrew Bustamante [00:12:04]: I have not done those, and I've heard about them, but I've never been part of a volunteer group, and it was never a requirement for our training or operational certification.

Ben Greenfield [00:12:14]: Do you use a wearable to track any element of your nervous system or your sleep?

Andrew Bustamante [00:12:18]: So the answer is no. During my time at the CIA, we had a strict no wearables rule, because most wearables let off some kind of signal. They either let off a Bluetooth signal, or they push off some kind of RF signal. What ends up happening is those signals can be tracked, and hacked, and then they can be used to monitor locations where intelligence officers are either gathering or routinely exercising.

Ben Greenfield [00:12:46]: Right. And the data can be actually either hacked into or used against you. I actually had an employee once who asked me how I was doing, and this was right before I was about to go step on stage, and I said, great. I feel fantastic. And they're like, well, that's good because you only slept 4 hours last night. And I'm like, how do you know? And second, why is this the time you'd be telling me that? So, yeah, people can get access to that data and it can backfire.

Andrew Bustamante [00:13:14]: Yeah. So it's a big thing for us. You can imagine when you are when you're trained and there's so much investment in keeping you essentially off the radar, then there are all sorts of policies that prevent you from using smart watches, trackable Fitbits or fitness tracking, Internet of things kind of accessories. You don't have Bluetooth-enabled headphones or Bluetooth-enabled speakers. You don't have any smart glasses, or anything like that.

Ben Greenfield [00:13:40]: Now, Adam, when he introduced us, had mentioned the word biohacking. He said that you were into a kind of like fitness or. Or hacking. What does that look like for you?

Andrew Bustamante [00:13:49]: It's really very practical for us, which is, it's an important thing to understand, because when CIA officers. The big challenge for us happens immediately after we come back from an operation. So unlike the movies, we usually tune our bodies to some sort of optimal state before we deploy on an operation because we assume that over the course of that operation, we will degrade, we won't sleep very much, we won't eat very much. A lot of what we eat will make us sick. We'll have a great deal of stress and a great deal of anxiety over the course of the operation. Oftentimes, you'll actually pick up, like, a worm, a stomach worm, or a digestive worm. There are all sorts of terrible things that happen to you when you're on top, and then the body that you had optimized before you left becomes degraded and damaged over the course of the operation. So where biohacking, if our version of biohacking really comes into play, is when we return from the operation and we have to recover because that recovery time is critical to our operational utility.

Andrew Bustamante [00:15:00]: If we take too long to recover, we become less operationally viable. So we have to recover quickly so we can get back up to optimum status to get back out into the field.

Ben Greenfield [00:15:09]: And what does optimal recovery look like?

Andrew Bustamante [00:15:12]: A lot of sleep, a lot of rest. We usually get. We have exercise scientists who kind of serve as interlocutors in our health. So we get balanced diets, balanced supplements, along with tailored exercise routines that are aligned with our biology, our age, our hormone levels, our, you know, VO2 maximums. Like, everything. They know us very well, so they create these tailored programs for us to get us back up to operational utility.

Ben Greenfield [00:15:46]: So I'm just curious, coming back from what it sounds like would be a pretty exhausting or draining operation. How many hours per day would you spend let's say, like in the equivalent of a spa or a health club or a gym environment, recovering, exercising, et cetera. What's the daily hours look like?

Andrew Bustamante [00:16:05]: It actually, varies. So when you first come back, there's a process we have called R & R rest and recuperation. And during that R & R, it's a fixed number of days per deployed days. So, for example, if you were deployed for 30 days, you would come back and have seven days of R & R. I'm just giving you that as an example. Right. One week to one month for ease of understanding. So if you're deployed for six months, you're coming back to six weeks of R & R.

Andrew Bustamante [00:16:34]: And then when you start that R & R period, there's an element where they front load true medical exams, medical treatments, pharmaceuticals to aid in whatever might be needed, right? Whether it's penicillin to get past infections or bacteria or any kind of IV-based supplement, something to boost your vitamin D or your vitamin C. That's how we always start with a lot of time in bed and a lot of time, basically, with some sort of what we call the Office of Medical Services OMs, with some sort of doctor leading our initial assessment of what our health status is on return. And then as the weeks progress, we get less time in, let's say a medical scenario, and we get more time in with the nutritionist, and then we get less time with the nutritionist and more time with the gym and less time with the gym and more time in an academic scenario, prepping for our next operation. And it's kind of like a pendulum or a sliding scale whereas we regain our health during that R & R period, we're getting ourselves back to a status where we're preparing for the next operation.

Ben Greenfield [00:17:49]: Man, that is involved. Were there any elements of the R & R component that were for you? Now, I'm assuming that being x, you're not going on a lot of these operations anymore, or any of them, but based on the r and R principles used that you experienced, are there certain things that have stuck with you now that you say, hey, I'm beat up. I know this worked well, whether it's, I don't know, hyperbaric chamber or infrared light or some supplement or medication or anything like that.

Andrew Bustamante [00:18:19]: Yeah, there are. So L-theanine is a supplement that has become kind of ever-present in our house. It's a leveler for any kind of anxiety or stress. CBD oil was not something that we used at the agency, but it was something that had a very similar effect to some of the anti-anxiety that we were given when we were at the agency. And then it's funny as this is, one of the core things that we were fed was an electrolyte that was mixed with water. So instead of drinking just straight water, we would drink this mix of 50-50 of a sugar-based electrolyte that was watered down, and that would become kind of our go-to drink. Kind of like you would go to drink water. It's essentially Gatorade but of a higher quality.

Andrew Bustamante [00:19:08]: So even now in our household, anytime anybody gets sick, anytime anybody feels down, we immediately start splitting a standard Gatorade 50-50 with water, and that becomes our go-to drink because it gives you calories and salts or electrolytes and hydration all kinds of simultaneously.

Ben Greenfield [00:19:25]: Yeah. There's a lot of people who are a little bit orthorexic in the biohacking and health sector who say, well, what about the sugar? You're gonna get diabetes, bro. But if you look at it from a biochemical standpoint or a physiological standpoint, the addition of sugars and the increase in what's called the osmolality of the fluid, when you, let's say, take you, I don't know, let's say you're using LMNT electrolytes or something, and you add honey or some form of a sugary solution to the water, you actually allow for better driving of the minerals across the intestinal border and into the bloodstream. And of course, as you mentioned, Andrew, you're getting easily digestible calories when you're sick. So there's actually a case to be made for going with something that actually has the calories or the sugars plus the electrolytes in it, especially if you're down, you're depleted and you can't eat much else. The L-theanine thing is interesting. Are you using like a powder or a capsule, or taking it at a certain time of day or? What does that look like?

Andrew Bustamante [00:20:23]: Yeah, so we use a powder and then we also use a powder-based magnesium. And I'd have to pull up the actual. I'd have to go and pull it from our shelf to find out the. It's one of those multi-name magnesium, but those are two powdered-based supplements that we just add to water and we use anytime that we know that we're coming into a stressful period, because, you know, a stressful period is then going to have secondary effects on your cortisol level. It's also going to have secondary effects on your immune system, and it could be the gateway point for what turns into a viral infection that takes out the whole family. Right. So it's for us. We try to front-end load as much as we can using what we learn from the practice at OMS.

Ben Greenfield [00:21:01]: Yeah. The cool thing about L-theanine, I don't know if you've messed around with this at all, is if you combine it with any caffeinated source, like an energy drink or a cup of coffee, around 100 milligrams of L-theanine gives you an extended-release formula version of that energetic compound with less jitteriness and increased production of what are called alpha brainwaves, like more of the focused brainwaves. You can literally take any stack, like a caffeinated stack, nicotine stack, energy drink stack, whatever. And by adding 100 mg of L-theanine, you kind of convert it into something that lasts longer with less of a kind of like spiking high.

Andrew Bustamante [00:21:39]: No, that is. That's interesting. That is not something I've ever experimented with, and that is something that I literally want to experiment with, like, tomorrow morning because that's the problem with your energy stacks. That's the problem with caffeine.

Ben Greenfield [00:21:52]: Right. And I have L-theanine on hand as well. Anytime I take a smart drug or a nootropic or something, I immediately feel, uh oh, this thing's hitting me kind of hard. Theanine almost instantly takes that edge off in about 20 minutes.

Andrew Bustamante [00:22:06]: Oh, that's awesome, man. But, yeah, that's. So for us, we keep things very simple. And I appreciate that. In the biohacking world, there's a general, I think, assumption that biohacking is a very kind of intelligent, chemistry-based scientific practice.

Ben Greenfield [00:22:26]: Not really.

Andrew Bustamante [00:22:29]: Which is why I try to keep it. I try to keep it very, very simple. I just do what smart people tell me works for the body, and then if my body responds, I keep the practice going. But there was lots of stuff where that my body never responded to. Right. My body never responded to meditation, increasing sleep performance at night, acupuncture, acupressure, and reflexology, those things never really resonated with my body. So those are all practices I let go of the wayside where, like self-massage or trigger point massage all have resonated very well. Like, those are things that my body does respond to.

Ben Greenfield [00:23:03]: So what would an ideal pre sleep or pre rest routine look like for you now?

Andrew Bustamante [00:23:09]: One of the things that I do on a regular basis before. Before I try to lay down. I make sure I'm not looking at screens, and I don't look at screens for two reasons. One, I do believe there's something to the whole blue light effect on stimulating the brain. But more importantly, I don't want to get my brain into a position where it is starting to absorb new information in the last 90 minutes of the day. Because the brain only has two switches. It's either learning something new or it's indexing something that it's already learned. Well, the whole idea behind sleep is to let sleep be a period where you're indexing.

Andrew Bustamante [00:23:46]: So the last thing I want to do is supercharge my brain with things that it's learned, new right before bed. So I don't want to read the news, I don't want to scroll through social media. I don't want to be, you know, I don't even read a book before bed because I don't want to instigate any new creative thoughts in those last 90 minutes.

Ben Greenfield [00:24:04]: By the way, I have a different approach. Even though I, like you, avoid blue light due to the suppression of melatonin and sleep drive. I will often study either a problem that I want to solve, such as re-reviewing an email about some problem during the day I haven't yet solved, or read a book that isn't super stimulating but typically involves, you know, something like self-improvement, sometimes a book that's got new and interesting information in it that I then want to consolidate during sleep. You know, relying on the old adage, you know, to sleep on something, you know, that allows your brain to kind of tick into problem-solving mode while you're asleep. So although I'm very careful with stimulation, social media checking for new emails, like letting the world push new information to me versus information I've self-selected that I want to present when I'm going to sleep, I still am okay with presenting myself with information prior to sleep that I want my brain to subconsciously work on during sleep.

Andrew Bustamante [00:25:07]: So I don't think we're that different actually then because where you're self-selecting business and personal growth concepts that you're going to take with you into that indexing phase because your indexing phase is also the phase where new neural links are created and disparate ideas are also subconsciously connected all through sleep, that makes total sense for me because I have two young children. I think what I've come into the habit of is those last 90 minutes of the day are really spent with them. So then I get the neural connections I get the memory boost. I get the connection satisfaction of basically taking my wife and my children as the final things with me to bed. So I get to retain those memories, I get to retain those moments. Plus I get to build that relationship with my family in a closer way right before bedtime, which is doing the same thing for all of them. Right? It's permanizing or cementing memories with dad for my seven-year-old daughter and memories with dad for my eleven-year-old son, and memories with children and bedtime routines with my wife. So we're having similar benefits but using it in a different way.

Andrew Bustamante [00:26:24]: Not new information, but information that I am prioritizing as something I want to retain.

Ben Greenfield [00:26:29]: And a lot of that happens. That memory, that learning consolidation, that emotional processing during REM sleep. You know what's interesting, Andrew, is you know that the two things that a lot of people, I'll give you a more precise clue, supplement with or take prior to sleep that absolutely crushes your REM sleep cycles, thus crushing your ability to do learning process, emotional processing, memory consolidation, etcetera. Do you know what the two things are?

Andrew Bustamante [00:26:58]: I'm on the edge of my seat.

Ben Greenfield [00:26:59]: Okay. Number one, THC. A lot of people use these edibles. Now, prior to sleep, they decrease your sleep latency. They cause you to fall asleep very quickly. But your sleep architecture, if you do use a wearable or something like that to track sleep, REM sleep drops by like ten to 15%. And this is why people who use THC-rich cannabis prior to sleep report less dreaming, because they are dreaming less. The other one is diazepam, like anything like valium, unfortunately, also very commonly prescribed for sleep.

Ben Greenfield [00:27:30]: But both of those give you sleep, but it's not the type of sleep that you need if you want to be a complete human, especially in the emotional, memory, and learning departments.

Andrew Bustamante [00:27:41]: How interesting, man. Yeah. Actually, it's interesting to me that people would ever seek out to reduce REM sleep because REM sleep is the sleep that most people are pursuing.

Ben Greenfield [00:27:54]: Yeah. Yeah. I think the reason is that when it comes to sleep latency and the fact that Valium and THC can increase, or, I'm sorry, decrease sleep latency, the amount of time that it takes for you to fall asleep. Many people like that sledgehammer-like effect of not having to sit with their thoughts right prior to sleep. The anxious, racing thoughts that keep them up. Obviously, there are alternatives, you know, cognitive behavioral therapy, you know, short inhales, long exhales, or some form of breath work. Some people, you know, meditation, some acupressure both of which obviously didn't work for you, but worked for some people. It's just easier for a lot of people to, like, chew on a gummy or pop a pill.

Ben Greenfield [00:28:34]: But unfortunately, you get, you get decreased latency, but non-REM versus with practice and kind of, you know, using other tactics, you can have decreased latency and still have your REM sleep.

Andrew Bustamante [00:28:47]: Yeah, absolutely. So the other, another one of the cool practices, it's not part of the sleep cycle, but we had a waking cycle. We had a morning routine that was always very important to us at CIA. And it was during the waking routine that we instigated more of the meditative practice and where we instigated more of the intentional, what we would call seeking quiet, essentially reducing stimulation on your five senses and giving your wake, wakeful brain a chance to optimize and index information from the night before. Because during your sleep, it's your subconscious that's doing all of the work. So then when you wake up, it's a period of time where you have the closest proximity to that subconscious mind. But what ends up happening is we often jump into the day. So we give up that opportunity to be connected to our subconscious mind when in fact, it's a very unique opportunity for us to capitalize on the indexing that happened overnight, the processing that happened overnight, and bring it into the present, bring it into conscious thought.

Andrew Bustamante [00:29:52]: Plus, what ends up happening, at least for me, is when I take that 15 to 25 minutes to meditate in the morning, essentially to seek that quiet, non-stimulating time. I find that there are certain thoughts that naturally present themselves as priorities for the day, not priorities that somebody else created or priorities that pop up because they just happen to pop into the mind, but actual priorities that will boil up from the subconscious.

Ben Greenfield [00:30:20]: It's very interesting that you bring this up. I actually have a podcast. I remember the title of it. It's called why to meditate when you wake up. It's with Joe DeStefano, who has since changed his name to Joseph Anu. But I'll find it. I'll put it in the show notes. If you're listening, the show notes are going to be at BenGreenfieldlife.com/everydayspy BenGreenfieldlife.com/everydayspy.

Ben Greenfield [00:30:42]: He described how the brain is in a high degree of theta brainwave production upon waking, which is kind of like the, you know, the monk meditating on a Himalayan mountaintop style of brainwaves. And that if you seize that opportunity before email, preferably before bright light, before anything, that's going to shift you into more of alpha or beta brainwave production. You could have some very meaningful and deep meditation sessions. And since that podcast, I also interviewed Justin Roethlingshoefer, and he describes his 1st 30 minutes in the sauna within about a half hour upon waking, where he's just staring at the wall, thinking. Well, not thinking, but just allowing thoughts to pass through, much of which involves ideas about what he's going to do or accomplish later that day. I'm curious about what your morning meditation practice actually looks like from a logistical standpoint.

Andrew Bustamante [00:31:39]: Yeah, absolutely. And you know, it's great to hear that there are multiple data points that you've experienced that speak to why it's so powerful. So what I was taught and what I still practice to this day is I wake up to no alarm. So I wake up naturally. I also have windows in my room that are not blocked from the light. So there is an element of natural daylight that also comes in, that engages in when I wake up. But I will wake up. And then upon waking up, sitting next to my bed, I'll have 500 water, and I will sit on the edge of my bed, literally just kind of pivot from where I'm sleeping, put my feet over the edge, plant my feet solidly on the ground, and then I'll start drinking my 200 ml or my 500 water, not in any kind of rush, but in a fashion that is intended to hydrate, not a fashion that is intended to just sip away at water.

Andrew Bustamante [00:32:30]: And during that period of time, I will just sit in a comfortable position. It's very similar to transcendental meditation. And then personally, I will close my eyes, I'll cross my fingers so that I have a connection from left hand to right hand. That's a physical connection, kind of a closed circuit of the body. And then I will repeat a mantra in my head that was given to me when I learned transcendental meditation. And then I'll just essentially practice that transcendental mantra and constantly try to push it further back and further back into my, into my conscious mind. And it's through that process that I will start to see what thoughts are dominant against the mantra. And that kind of helps me see what my mind is subconsciously stewing on and what those priorities are to me.

Andrew Bustamante [00:33:19]: And oftentimes I'll find myself thinking about a deep problem at work or in the business, or a deep problem in the family, or deep concern for a family member. But it gives me a chance to kind of connect at a very deep level with what is sitting in my brain, both conscious and subconscious.

Ben Greenfield [00:33:39]: I think that's a critically important statement that you made. Assessing the thoughts that arise against the mantra, the thoughts that are powerful enough to seem important enough to overpower that mantra. Are you then doing any type of writing afterward or during in a journal to capture those thoughts?

Andrew Bustamante [00:33:56]: Correct. Yeah. And then there's a. And then I have a very light journaling process. I am not good at journaling, and I am incredibly jealous of people who are good at journaling. And again, I'm using a values-based judgment. Right. To decide this.

Andrew Bustamante [00:34:11]: But when I journal, I don't journal in detail. I don't journal in full sentences. I kind of journal in fragments. So I'll write down whatever is at the top of my mind. Right. The baby got sick last night, or I'm worried about my grandmother's health right now, or the business needs a new marketing strategy for Q3, or whatever else it might be. I'll journal in fragments, but then what it gives me a chance to do is by the end of the week, I can review the fragments of the week, and I'll start to see the true anchor points. And which of these are consistent patterns?

Andrew Bustamante [00:34:45]: Exactly.

Ben Greenfield [00:34:46]: That's very interesting. Okay, so you have this meditation component and these journals, I'm assuming you just kind of save them and come back to them or review them.

Andrew Bustamante [00:34:55]: At a certain point, I'll actually translate my written journals into dashboards, like Excel dashboards that I can then categorize and sort over time. So I think I have somewhere 370 or so lines of journal entries that I can then draw from for the entire year.

Ben Greenfield [00:35:14]: Yeah. It's basically working in the process of integration from an analytical standpoint, which is smart, versus just having a bunch of random thoughts that you never come back to.

Andrew Bustamante [00:35:23]: Right. And that's the thing that I am not jealous of. People who like journaling oftentimes they don't organize their journaling notes. They have journal upon the journal, and they can go back and they can page through their thoughts, and they can get a bit of a dopamine rush when they remember, but they lose the opportunity to apply it or actualize the ideas and the thoughts and the patterns that were in their journals.

Ben Greenfield [00:35:46]: Right. That is the one thing I like about the Kindle, is all my highlights automatically get saved into my Amazon account. And then I use a program called Readwise to send me a weekly email with the most important or memorable highlights that I've been going through on my Kindle. So I have this weekly reminder, and I'm not quite as systematic as you at putting those into an actual spreadsheet, but I've automated that process of bringing back top to mind those things that were most important highlighted in my Kindle reading.

Andrew Bustamante [00:36:16]: So the only thing I want to add, and it's a bit of a departure from the whole meditation practice, Ben, so feel free to bring me back in. But for a morning routine, the meditation practice was only the beginning. A big part of the reason that we drink water before starting the meditation is to prep the body with hydration, because it's coming off of essentially an eight to twelve-hour hydration fast in the, in the sleep period beforehand. So you're, you're kind of shotgunning this water into your system, which is lubricating your digestive system, it's lubricating your bloodstream, it's rehydrating your, your, your body, and it's also creating that more efficient blood flow to the brain in advance of the meditation practice. But then, very quickly following the meditation practice, we also have a regimented, relatively regimented routine for introducing food-based calories into our system in a way that is also designed to kind of benefit and optimize our meditation practice.

Ben Greenfield [00:37:17]: Tell me about that.

Andrew Bustamante [00:37:18]: So essentially, we start with easily digestible, high-fiber natural sugar sources. So ideally ones with high antioxidant levels. So a lot of berries, a lot of simple fruits is the first thing that we'll put in our system after we complete, our hydration. And the whole idea there is because you want to jumpstart your body with simple sugars, but you want those simple sugars to be delayed in their absorption, which is why you have fiber-based sugars, which is why we're using berries. And then on the tail end of having that fiber based antioxidant, heavy, essential natural sugar rush, that plus the meditation is really giving you all the energy that you need to make it through that kind of morning period. So you don't need to rely on external chemical stimulants like caffeine when you have a natural sugar-based or natural organic based stimulant that is already merging with a more wakeful, lubricated brain from the hydration practice.

Ben Greenfield [00:38:19]: Yeah, that's super interesting. I'm going to assume, based on the calorie intake, that some section of the morning involves physical activity, which I'll ask you about in a second here. But you're reminding me of actually a study I was reading just yesterday about fruit and berry intake and the rise in glycemic index. And it turns out it's much lower than what a lot of people would think, the rise in blood sugar that occurs in response to berry and fruit intake. But as a matter of fact, and this shocks me, if you blend your fruits and berries, you see an even lower blood sugar response, assuming these are blended whole with the seeds and the skins and everything, apparently, because the blender does a much better job masticating or chewing the food than even you can do. And all of the flavanols and polyphenols and seed based components and fibers are even better absorbed if you blend. It's very interesting. It was almost counterintuitive to me.

Ben Greenfield [00:39:13]: I thought, well, if you smoothie something and you suck it down real quick, you're going to get a bigger blood sugar response. But it turns out the blender turns it into an even more nutritious approach.

Andrew Bustamante [00:39:23]: That's awesome. It's funny because when I'm living in the first world, like when I'm at home, just out of convenience, I'll oftentimes use a blender to blend berries and cherries and bananas and proteins together. But when you're actually on operation, you don't have that kind of support. You don't have a blender, you don't have an energy source that you can just plug in your Nutribullet to. Which is why we eat so many whole foods. You eat whole foods when you're on top because, one, you can get access to them, but also because you can control the bacterial, food-borne illness element better. Because you touch your own food, you clean your own food, and you only eat the food that you believe is going to keep you healthy. So that's a big part of why we start with raw berries.

Ben Greenfield [00:40:09]: It's an interesting approach. And, yeah, like you noted, a lot of people will turn to coffee or nootropic or smart drug or something else was energy, but often all you need are some calories and some nutrients. Now, what about the physical activity? Are you doing any type of exercise or fitness routine, especially anything that you learned during your time in the CIA or tactics that you learned during that time?

Andrew Bustamante [00:40:32]: Absolutely. The big thing with the agency, the agency isn't really actually, they're not very particular about what physical activity you do in the morning, as much as they are focused on increasing your blood rate, your blood flow, increasing your heart rate early in the morning. So whether you do that through push-ups or whether you do that through stairmaster, whether you do that through a walk or whether you do that through yoga, it's very much a personalized process, and your assigned exercise scientists will help coach you through whatever is the most natural for you. Because for some people, it's very natural to lie down on the floor and start doing sit-ups. For other people, it's more natural to throw on a jacket and go outside for a walk. And for some people, they want to do a quick stretch and then go for a half-mile jog or whatever it might be, right? So everybody's a little bit different. But the main thing is they're looking for a variation in heart rate against what you had during your sleep cycle. So coming off of a ten to twelve-hour low heart rate period, what they want is to essentially stimulate the body with a spike in heart rate, not necessarily to your cardiovascular level, your cardiovascular fitness level, but a jump in heart rate to create the variance in heart rate from resting to active, essentially every 12 hours or so.

Ben Greenfield [00:41:43]: And so for you, what does that look like?

Andrew Bustamante [00:41:46]: For me, that looks like walking, it looks like running. I'll do yoga practices in the morning as well. But the yoga practices I do are generally more of a flow yoga-based practice because what I'm really trying to do is I'm looking to take advantage of lubricating my joints lubricating my lower back, and increasing my muscle flexibility because of my age. That's what it looks like for me now. When I was younger, it was much easier for me to get up and then go into like a push-up, sit-up, jumping Jack, you know, squat, jump kind of routine. But as I get older now, I'm much more interested in the longevity and the comfort level in my joints and in my muscles.

Ben Greenfield [00:42:24]: Yeah, reduced friction and a low barrier to entry for that as well, meaning you're more likely to stick with it on a consistent basis. This is very interesting. Now, the everyday spy intrigues me, and we haven't dug into that too much. When you're teaching these tactics that you learn in the CIA or so-called espionage tactics, I would imagine there are a few that kind of catch right away that might be easy to teach with a high degree of benefit. And for me and for my audience, I'm just curious if you can think of any that you could teach me right now during this podcast that would be a good example of the type of tactics you teach at Everyday Spy.

Andrew Bustamante [00:43:02]: Yeah, you know, so what I'll do, Ben, I'll start with a couple of fitness and nutrition-based ones, because those are going to be the ones that you most likely already know and already practice but it's a very cool opportunity, I think, for me to understand it more from your point of view, from the operational point of view. The thing that people don't understand about the CIA is that the CIA is a secret organization. True. But it is also a very, very pragmatic organization, very practical. It's not trying to change the world. It's literally just trying to make a 10% improvement at any given time. So when you look at a CIA officer, when you look at a CIA operation, you have to keep in mind that they're thinking very practically, what can we do in a short period of time to make the maximum impact? Which is exactly what you're asking, right, Ben? So from the morning routine that we just went through, the fact that we eat berries, the drinking of water, those are all some of the first things that we teach people at everyday spy because it is truly transformative. Like, if you.

Andrew Bustamante [00:44:02]: If I just had a podcast interview recently with somebody where I told them, all I want you to do is drink 500 water tomorrow when you wake up, that's it. Not anything else. Just wake up, have the water next to your bed, and have it on your bedside table. And then when you're groggy and you're. And you're stupefied, first thing in the morning, just drink the water. And then 25 minutes later, 15 to 25 minutes later, I'm willing to bet you won't be craving your coffee because you'll already be awake and alert instead of needing the coffee to make you awake and alert. And then, like, eight times out of ten, they will, somebody will send me a text message or a message on social media saying that just. That just that simple change transformed their life in a matter of hours, right? And then we layer on top of that, the berries.

Andrew Bustamante [00:44:47]: And then we layer on top of that, what we call a white diet first thing in the morning, which is egg whites, cheese, bananas, basically, high protein and higher glycemic level index foods that you introduce after you've already provided your body a foundation, antioxidants. So all of those are simple things that we'll teach on the health side right away. On the fitness side, one of the things that we often talk about at the agency is really about maintaining fitness by maintaining consistent activity. Not trying to optimize your activity, but just trying to maintain consistent activity again, because for us, if we're in the armpit of the world trying to carry out an operation, we won't get to go to a gym. We won't get to have a 60-minute workout session, right?

Ben Greenfield [00:45:37]: No. No fancy equinox in Afghanistan or whatever.

Andrew Bustamante [00:45:41]: Correct. But what we do know is that empirically, if we do some sort of physical activity that is outside of the norm, meaning it's normal to don all of your weapons and your body armor and go for a patrol, that's normal. So it's normal to go for a walk carrying 60 pounds of gear, that's normal. What you need is something that variants a variance from the norm to challenge your body and challenge your muscle through some sort of muscle confusion that then optimizes continued body maintenance while you're on deployment. So maybe going for a run some days, or maybe doing yoga other days, or maybe doing some sort of resistance band training, which is easier to do than weight training whenever you're traveling.

Ben Greenfield [00:46:23]: Yeah. And by the way, if you look at neurogenesis and neuroplasticity, if you want to grow your brain and reap the brain-building benefits of exercise, including the generation of things like vascular endothelial growth factor and brain-derived neurotrophic factor, these things are like miracle grow for your neurons, then it's not enough to just do something gets the heart rate up. You need to introduce novelty, which is basically what you're describing, meaning every couple of weeks you're changing up the exercises, or every day you're introducing a new exercise, or every four weeks you're changing up your block. And so there's something to not just getting the heart rate up and making the muscles burn, but doing so at new angles with different exercises in different modes than you might be doing the rest of the day or in a previous workout block.

Andrew Bustamante [00:47:14]: So these are. I mean, these are simple practices that we apply all the time that people in the everyday world can implement immediately. And just like you said, have immediate benefits. I'll never forget, I had a. I had a. A customer who was a beautiful mid-thirties female. She was fit, she was smart, she was successful. And what she said is that she attributed her success to a strict routine.

Andrew Bustamante [00:47:39]: And part of her routine was that every day she'd wake up at the same time, 07:00 a.m. and she would go down to her treadmill, and she would put in the same speed and the same incline, and she would run the same distance in the same amount of time every single day, seven days a week. And that that was, for her.

Andrew Bustamante [00:47:54]: That routine was part of why she was as successful as she was. So one of the first things that I told her to do was vary her routine. I was like, the thing is your body's not improving at all. All you're doing is you're doing what your body already sees as normal. You're two and a half-mile run at incline level five, pace level nine. Your body is now adapted to that, and it is just normal. It's like your morning bowel movement. It's just normal.

Andrew Bustamante [00:48:25]: It burns calories, yes, but it's not. It's not challenging your body or challenging your heart or challenging your muscles. So all I had her do was on Friday of each week, I would have her step away from the treadmill and do, like, a four-exercise rotation of different squat-style exercises. Right, lunges, squats, um, uh, pelvic pulses, that sort of thing. Just simple, simple changes that were still focused on her strongest muscle set, which was her lower body. And within two weeks, she came back and she was, like, shocked at how challenging the workout was. Even though it was a simple workout, she was shocked that somehow her legs were strong enough to run every day, but they weren't strong enough to handle 30 squat pulses. Uh, and she was kind of floored by that.

Andrew Bustamante [00:49:13]: But then also on top of that, she found that the break in the routine actually created a new level of energy and excitement throughout her Friday afternoon. So her Fridays became a more energetic, more exciting day just because it started a different way. Both of these are processes that the CIA taught me. Right? Body changing your body exercise patterns, but then also introducing a break to routine, which nobody ever thinks of. An intentional break from routine can actually benefit your routine.

Ben Greenfield [00:49:43]: Yep. Yeah, yeah, that's spot on. I mean, what you're describing, basically from an exercise science standpoint, is the concept of periodization. Breaking a training year or quarter week or even day into certain periods of fitness devoted to certain tactics, and changing those tactics up throughout the year so that you get a stair step-based increase in fitness as you work, recover, work, recover, but work with different modes so that your body does not adapt to imposed demands and becomes more fit at a faster pace due to the chain. So, yeah, it's a perfect example. Now, I do want to ask you, though, you know, when it comes to everyday spy and espionage tactics, with regards to relationships or communication principles, we've established the fact that you have a wife and children. Do you have any type of tactics that you carry into your family life, your relationships, your community building, or even just daily conversation that you teach at Everyday Spy that really resonates with people?

Andrew Bustamante [00:50:47]: Yeah, absolutely. So let me give you, let me give you a couple of these. So, speaking kind of husband to husband, first. Right. One of the best things that the agency taught me how to do was exercise something called perspective. Perspective is different than perception because perception is related to your five senses and how you interact with the world. That is your perception. Perspective means that you step away from your five senses and put yourself into the shoes or the position of somebody else.

Andrew Bustamante [00:51:18]: So this was an exercise that we had to do every time we were going to go after a new case, right? So if you're going to talk to a North Korean missile engineer, or if you're going to talk to an Iranian nuclear scientist, or if you're going to talk to a. A Chinese medical researcher, one of the first things that you do is you take time to reflect and settle. I mean, you sit in a room with a blank sheet of paper, and you start to put yourself in that person's shoes, and you start to make a list of what that person cares about. What does that medical, that Chinese medical researcher care about? Well, maybe they care about their wife, or maybe they care about their kids, but they're Chinese, so they also have to care about their parents, and they also have to care about their wife's parents or their husband's parents because they are the Social Security for the other generation. So, 30, 45 minutes of this exercise, and you have a whole list of all the things that somebody else cares about. The reason that's so powerful is because nobody thinks about what somebody else cares about because we're too busy thinking about what we ourselves care about. So when I got married or when I met my wife, who was also CIA, one of the first things that we started doing because of our training was making this list about each other. Like, here's what I think my wife worries about day to day.

Andrew Bustamante [00:52:36]: Here's what I think my wife is thinking about from, like, month to month or week to week. And then, because we were both trained, we could cross reference our notes and find out where we were, right or wrong. The. The impact of those initial conversations, now that we've been married almost 14 years, is unbelievable because I know with high confidence what she values at different moments on different days, at different times, different times of her menstrual cycle, different times of the year, different times of the significant events that happened in her family, her sister's wedding, her grandmother's passing, et cetera, et cetera. Like, I'm more in tune with what she is feeling based on my perspective on her. And as a result of that, I can literally change my behaviors to impact her behaviors, which can make for a happy day. But it can also help me get more productivity that I need because I can choose to do something in one week and not some other week because I know it's going to be easier for her to accept one week than a different week. And of course, it prevents a lot of fights.

Andrew Bustamante [00:53:43]: The fights that we do have, however, are quite breakdown, scream, blast out fights.

Ben Greenfield [00:53:49]: Well, I can imagine if it's that rare that a fight actually does happen. It's got to be pretty serious. But what you described is really based on that human psychological need to be seen, loved, and heard. And you're equipping yourself to better do that, to see, love, and hear in a more personal way with the focus on perspective, and understanding.

Andrew Bustamante [00:54:07]: Yeah, absolutely. And then the same thing kind of applies as a father to children, too. But the biggest hack, the biggest hack that I give people about parenting is not about trying to understand how your children see the world. Frankly, you can't. Their brain is at a whole different developmental level than your adult brain. It's very hard to be able to correctly assess where and how they're thinking. But what you know for a fact is that every child, as it ages, every child from day to day, what they're seeking is more and more control of the world around them, guaranteed. So as a parent, oftentimes what we struggle with, with our kids is the fight for control.

Andrew Bustamante [00:54:48]: They want something, we want something different, and then we just overpower them because we're the parents. Well, what we have found because of the agency is you can also use a technique that we at the agency called a false dilemma. A false dilemma is when you artificially only create two options. Now, in analysis, a false dilemma is a terrible thing because you're basically like, oh, this bad thing happened, and it happened because of this or this, and that's it. And then you don't consider anything else. So false dilemma in analysis is a, is a fallacy. But when it comes to giving somebody the perception of choice, when you're giving somebody this idea that they have a choice, when in fact they don't, a false dilemma is super useful. So for both of our children, we were able to save most of the bedtime routine fights about brushing your teeth.

Ben Greenfield [00:55:40]: Are you referring to the. Do you want to use the yellow toothbrush or the green toothbrush?

Andrew Bustamante [00:55:44]: Yes, exactly. Right. Do you want to brush your teeth now or in five minutes? Right. There's no way out of brushing your teeth, but they still feel like they get a sense of control in making a choice. And oftentimes at a childhood developmental stage. They're more excited to have power to make a choice than they are to even realize that the choice they're making is not a choice they really want to make.

Ben Greenfield [00:56:08]: Right? Yeah. It pairs very well with this parenting approach called Love and Logic, which involves educating your children about the consequences of any decision that they may make, equipping them with the knowledge to do so intelligently, and then letting them make the decision. So it's not, you know, for my 16-year-old sons, it's nothing. No porn. Don't touch it. You're in trouble if I find you whatever on Pornhub or whatever. It's instead dedicated time spent on your brain on porn websites, learning about dopaminergic desensitization, learning about the sex slave industry, and basically educating them to the point where they're very empowered, comma, there's no forbidden fruit in the house. They just feel as though they're equipped to make the right decision.

Ben Greenfield [00:56:53]: And when you pair that with setting a good example yourself. Right, like, you can't say, you know, we don't do screens at the dinner table and you're glancing for six important emails during dinner. Instead, the phone's just not on the table. They see that and it's just not a thing that we do. So Love and Logic, parenting style is it kind of goes hand in hand with the illusion of control example that you just gave.

Andrew Bustamante [00:57:18]: Yeah. And it's, I mean, as a parent, it is an incredibly useful thing because you want to raise children that will make good choices. But the first step to making good choices is teaching them how to make a choice at all. So before you can get to a 16-year-old who's choosing voluntarily not to watch porn, you have to first create a five-year-old who is choosing when they brush their teeth.

Ben Greenfield [00:57:44]: Yep, exactly. I love that approach. So Everyday Spy, is this like a membership website? People join and they learn certain tactics throughout the month or throughout a certain learning process.

Andrew Bustamante [00:57:55]: So no, actually, Everydayspy.com, our homepage is a full blown learning management system. So there's free learning, there's blog learning, there's free downloads, there's free study guides and case samples of everything from, like, real-world espionage cases. Because that's what we were built on, the real-world espionage. So you could download and learn about real-world espionage cases, or you can learn how we carry out our morning routine. We have a free download for our spy morning routine. So all of that can be pulled directly from everydayspy.com. but then for the people who want to go deeper. We have more complex multi-week learning programs that are basically standalone prices.

Andrew Bustamante [00:58:33]: We also have membership programs for people who want to tap into our community because we have an international community of people who have now used and learned these skills to get ahead in business, get ahead in their career, get ahead in their relationships. We've had people just had an event in New York we have live events, and we had an event in New York where one of the students who came to the event just got hired in the highest-paying science job they'd ever been hired into, in part because they used our techniques for how to win an interview. When they did an interview with the medical university, they were talking with.

Ben Greenfield [00:59:10]: Wow. Hopefully your royalty check is in the mail for that one. Geez.

Andrew Bustamante [00:59:13]: I know, right? Well, we don't work off of that aspect, but what ends up happening is people who break barriers, man, they come back and they break more barriers because there's always something to achieve.

Ben Greenfield [00:59:23]: Yeah, I dig it. Well, I'm going to have to spend even more time on your site now that I've met you and kind of got a chance to see how your brain ticks. I'm going to link to all your stuff as well. So for everybody listening in, if you go to BenGreenfieldlife.com/everydayspy, I'll link to all of Andrew's socials and his website. Also linked to a few other podcasts that came up. The one about meditating in the morning, the one with Justin, about staring at the wall of the sauna in the morning, and some other related podcasts that I've recorded similar to this one. So go to BenGreenfieldlife.com/everydayspy. Andrew, you're a fascinating guy.

Ben Greenfield [00:59:58]: I really appreciate you coming on. I'm super glad that Adam introduced us.

Andrew Bustamante [01:00:03]: Yeah, absolutely, Ben. And hopefully the next time we talk, man, I'll be in your back patio or in your backyard.

Ben Greenfield [01:00:08]: Heck, yeah. Well, if you, I mean, I'm moving from Washington soon. I'll be out in Idaho, but you're welcome anytime. All right, cool. Well, folks, thanks for listening. I'm Ben Greenfield along with Andrew Bustamante from Everyday Spy, signing out from Ben Greenfieldlife.com. Have an incredible week.

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