June 25, 2022
I've been interviewed a few times on the outstanding The Minimalists podcast with Joshua Millburn and his partner in crime Ryan Nicodemus, who together founded The Minimalists.
Emmy-nominated Netflix stars, podcasters, and New York Times–bestselling authors, Josh and Ryan help millions of people live meaningfully with less. The Minimalists have been featured in TIME, GQ, ABC, CBS, NBC, BBC, and NPR, and they have spoken at Harvard, Apple, and Google.
Here are links to a few of my previous episodes with them:
But this time it was I who put one of them (Josh) in the hot seat for my podcast, and I was able to speak with him about his journey into the minimalism mindset, how we sometimes go about it the wrong way, the four stages of hoarding, and much more.
At age 30, Josh and Ryan walked away from their six-figure corporate careers, jettisoned most of their material possessions, and started focusing on what's truly important. In their debut book, Minimalism: Live a Meaningful Life, Josh and Ryan explored their troubled pasts and descent into depression. Though they had achieved the American Dream, they worked ridiculous hours, wastefully spent money, and lived paycheck to paycheck. Instead of discovering their passions, they pacified themselves with ephemeral indulgences, which only led to more debt, depression, and discontent.
After a pair of life-changing events, Joshua and Ryan discovered minimalism, allowing them to eliminate their excess material things so they could focus on life's most important things: health, relationships, passion, growth, and contribution.
At first glance, people might think the point of minimalism is only to get rid of material possessions: Eliminating. Jettisoning. Extracting. Detaching. Decluttering. Paring down. Letting go. But that’s a mistake. True, removing the excess is an important part of the recipe—but it’s just one ingredient. If we’re concerned solely with the stuff, we’re missing the larger point.
Minimalists don’t focus on having less, less, less. They focus on making room for more: more time, more peace, more creativity, more experiences, more contribution, more contentment, and more freedom. Clearing the clutter frees up the space.
Minimalism is the thing that gets you past the things so you can make room for life’s important things—which aren’t things at all.
In this episode, Josh and I discuss his new book Love People, Use Things (which he also co-wrote with Ryan), in which he moves past simple decluttering, to show how minimalism makes room to reevaluate and heal the seven essential relationships in your life.
In this interview with Joshua Millburn, you'll discover:
-Publishing forays in the realm of minimalism…05:43
- Minimalism: Live a Meaningful Life, by Joshua Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus
- Ben on the Minimalist Podcast:
- Josh grew up with hard times in Dayton, OH
- Achieved material success by age of 30, but was left unfulfilled
- Adopted a minimalist mindset and lifestyle and began sharing with others
- Average American home contains 300,000 things (stat from the LA Times)
- Most people in the west are stage 1 hoarders
- Those excess things are often getting in the way of what's important
-The four stages of hoarding, and which stage you're likely at…11:15
- Spartanism: you can't hold on to anything (opposite of hoarding)
- Level 1 hoarder: light clutter, excess stuff in house, garage, etc.
- Advanced stages: smells, garbage, dead pets in the freezer, trash all over
- Intentionality is the line between hoarding and preparing
- “Just in Case” rule
- 20/20 rule: items that can be replaced for $20, within 20 minutes of home
-The “lightbulb” moment when Joshua Millburn embraced minimalism…17:24
- Marriage ended, mom died within the same month
- Wanting: The Power of Mimetic Desire by Luke Burgis
- Luke Burgis on The Minimalist Podcast
- Less stuff makes us value it more
- Information Age makes it difficult to ascertain what's important, causes us to compare with neighbors and everyone around the world
- Consumerism: an ideology where we believe “stuff” will make us feel whole and complete
- Minimalism becomes a pursuit of the “God-shaped hole” without the right motivation
- Removing excess creates room for what's truly important
-Starting points into the realm of Minimalism…26:00
- Wear simple things, avoid decision fatigue
- The bones are the beauty
- Spiritual Narcissist clothing (use code BEN22 to save 22%)
- Vuori clothing
- The most fashionable people are minimalists, because they wear their favorite clothes only
-Ben and Joshua Millburn discuss a minimalist diet…29:24
- Consistency in diet allows you to maintain metabolic health, reduce decision-making fatigue
- Minimalist Podcast with Rich Roll and Paul Saladino and Dr. Tommy Wood
- A minimalist diet is more about what you remove from the diet than what you eat
- Eat real food, avoid inflammatory foods, steer clear of processed foods, etc.
- Ben's smoothie recipe:
- Bone broth
- Coconut milk
- Stevia or Monkfruit for sweetener
- Raw liver
- Whey Protein Isolate
- Superfoods like spirulina, cacao nibs or coconut flakes
- Ben's lunch is usually a low calorie, high nutrient density meal
- Pumpkin puree
- Sea Moss Gel
- Miracle noodles (use code BEN to save 15%) with Andrea's Seed Oil or Extra Virgin Olive Oil
- Side of vegetables
- Left-over meat
- Ben's typical dinner with the family:
- Meat dish
- Sweet potato fries or Sushi Rice
- Joshua's food poisoning experience after drinking water in Brazil a few years back
- Healing is about the don't do more than the do
- Seasonal eating vs. having food shipped
- Podcast with Dr. Dan Pompa:
-Minimalist exercise and workouts…43:44
- Josh's daily foundation:
- Pushups, pull-ups, and squats for 18 minutes
- Walk 8+ miles per day
- The fittest people have the simplest routines
- Podcast with James Altucher:
-Why being busy doesn't make you important, it just makes you busy…49:12
- We consider busyness as a status symbol
- Being busy is actually being out of control of your life; everybody is dictating my time
- Make everything you do a “hell yes”
- Priority means “the first thing”
-The seven essential relationships in your life to balance before focusing on relationships with other people…52:11
- Foundational values
- Structural values
- Surface values
- Imaginary values
- Going into debt – Giving up a piece of our freedom to acquire things
- Spending money we don't have to acquire things we don't need to impress people we don't like
- Spending 1.2 trillion dollars a year on non-essential goods
-Mindfulness or meditation practices…59:05
- Silence is interweaved throughout the day
- A stoic friend of Joshua's: “I speak only when it adds more value than silence”
-How social minimalism promotes a life of productivity and creation…1:00:27
- Deep Work by Cal Newport
- Be aware of tiny pieces of time consumed by responding to requests
- Concern with others opinion of us
- Letting go is not about the doing; letting go is not something you do, it's something you stop doing
- Love People, Use Things By Joshua Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus
-And much more…
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Click here for the full written transcript of this podcast episode.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
– Joshua Milburn:
- The Minimalists
- A Day in the Life of a Minimalist by Joshua Milburn
- Books by Joshua Milburn and Ryan Nicodemus:
- Ben Greenfield on The Minimalists Podcast:
- Rich Roll, Paul Saladino and Dr. Tommy Wood on The Minimalists Podcast
- Beyond Fasting: How To Biohack Your Fast To Accelerate Fat Loss, Stave Off Carbohydrate Cravings & Enhance Cellular Autophagy.
- Why College Sucks (& Better Alternatives), How To Win At Any Game, What You Need To Say No To, & Much More With James Altucher.
- Wanting: The Power of Mimetic Desire by Luke Burgis
- Deep Work by Cal Newport
– Other Resources:
- Kettle And Fire Bone Broth
- Native Forest Coconut Milk
- Omica Organics Stevia Sweetener
- Lakanto Monkfruit Sweetener
- U.S. Wellness Meats Raw Beef Liver
- Kion Clean Protein
- Kion Creatine
- energybits Spirulina
- Cacao Nibs
- Coconut Flakes
- Pumpkin Puree
- Sea Moss Gel
- Miracle Noodles (use code BEN to save 15%)
- Andrea's Seed Oil
- Extra Virgin Olive Oil
- Sushi Rice
- Spiritual Narcissist (use code BEN22 to save 22%)
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Life changing podcast…one of your most eye opening…powerful! Thank you Ben & Joshua!
glad you found it helpful Evelyn
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I know it wasn’t on this episode but does anybody remember the company who is taking classic books and condensing them (like Blinkist does) that Ben talked about on a podcast earlier this year. And the entire catalogue is free. I thought it was a sponsor but can’t find the company anywhere in the show notes. Thanks in advance for anybody helping me out!
Is there a link for the Willow Farm that you mentioned? I tried typing in the address you gave, but wasn’t able to get to the right place.
Same for me. Found them here: https://willo.farm/ben/
Try this one: willo.farm/ben/