July 5, 2020
Do you struggle each morning or evening remembering to be grateful for your blessings in life? Have you heard you should have some kind of a journaling practice, but just don’t know where to start? Is it difficult for you to find the time to serve and help others? Do you feel as though you’re sometimes floundering in life without a clear, defined purpose?
Then keep reading, because today I'm going to share with you the journaling practice I've developed over the past year. This practice originated from daily use of my Christian Gratitude Journal, but my daily gratefulness routine has actually evolved to include not only gratitude, but three additional spiritual disciplines that I've found to be incredibly beneficial for bringing me into greater union with God, with myself, and with my fellow humans.
While there is no physical journal per se that one can currently purchase to incorporate the disciplines you're about to discover, all you'll need for now is a blank journal you can devote to these four spiritual disciplines. Then, within the next six months, I will have produced a Spiritual Disciplines Journal that will eventually replace the Christian Gratitude Journal to weave in all four spiritual disciplines you're about to discover, and you can click here to subscribe to my newsletter for notification of when that's ready.
In quick summary, each day of the journaling practice I'm about to explain in detail to you begins with a clear call to gratitude, along with identifying one person you can serve or pray for that day. This will help you grow spiritually, systematize a practice of gratefulness, and remind you to take time out of your day to serve others. Each day ends with self-examination and a review of your purpose statement, allowing you to identify what you have done well, what you could have done better, and how connected you are to your life’s purpose.
Whether you are simply interested in Christianity and the spiritual disciplines, a brand new Christian, a long-time follower of Christ and spiritual devotee, a Bible study leader, a parent, a student, a child, or anyone else who wants to experience the power of gratitude, service, self-examination, and purpose, you’ll find this practice absolutely transformational.
Enjoy reading, and feel free to leave your thoughts, comments, and questions below!
Why Should You Know About The Spiritual Disciplines?
As an author, speaker, and consultant in the realms of health, fitness, nutrition, and body and brain optimization, I’m perhaps most well-known for my teachings on biohacking, fitness, muscle gain, fat loss, nutrition, supplements, longevity, cognition, and beyond. But for much of my life, I did not focus upon building my spiritual muscles in the same way that I prioritized physical disciplines such as caring for my metabolic health, growing my physical muscles, or tending to the neurons in my brain.
However, after years of pursuing body and brain optimization, I grew to realize that the relatively self-obsessed or carnal pursuits of a lower body fat percentage, finding the perfect diet, climbing your own personal Mount Everest of a triathlon, Spartan race, or CrossFit competition, learning a host of new languages and musical instruments, increasing the health of your blood and biomarkers or “reversing the aging process” are all ultimately unfulfilling, and can often leave one standing at the top of the mountain of physical and mental achievement, yet feeling disappointed and extremely empty inside despite having accomplished what might appear to the world to be lofty and admirable goals.
Most of us inherently know that caring for our soul is important, but we somehow shove it to the side because, let's face it—life gets busy, and it just seems far more practical and immediately useful to go hit the gym rather than sit cross-legged on the floor meditating and praying, spending an extra five minutes in bed in the morning gratitude journaling, or prioritizing relationships during a long and joyful family dinner. Fact is, I personally spent about 20 years of my life, up until I was in my mid-30s, barely tending to my spirit—until I realized that my own unhappiness and constant striving for the next big physical, mental, business, and personal achievement and obstacle to overcome was simply leaving my spirit even more shriveled, shrunken, unfit, and neglected and leaving me unfulfilled, unhappy and unable to fully love others and to make a maximum, purpose-filled impact with my life for God’s glory.
Over the past several years—as I have repeatedly witnessed in both myself and others the ultimate unfulfillment of a sole focus upon carnal, fleshly pursuits and as I’ve observed great thinkers and philosophers while continually seeking for and asking for God’s wisdom—I've become increasingly convinced that caring for one's spirit is as important, no, actually far more important, than caring for one's body and brain. After your muscles have atrophied, your skin has sagged, your brain has degraded and accumulated with plaque, your blood vessels have become clogged, and your nerves have become weakened—long after your relentless pursuit of fitness or health or longevity has become a vain effort—your spirit can be just as strong and as bright as ever. Perhaps nowhere is this “soul importance” more eloquently stated than in Matthew 16:26: “For what profit is it to a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul?”
Yet sadly, it seems that the spirit is the most oft-neglected component of our human vessels, and that's often due to an ignorance of the spiritual disciplines, or the failure to systematize and prioritize these disciplines into our daily routine.
What Are The Spiritual Disciplines?
So what do I mean by the spiritual disciplines?
Spiritual disciplines are specific habits that develop, grow, and strengthen our spirit, that build the muscles of our character, and that train our soul. You can consider them to be the barbells, dumbbells, weight training machines, and running trails of our inner being. In his book Spiritual Disciplines For The Christian Life Donald Whitney succinctly defines the spiritual disciplines as those practices found in Scripture that promote spiritual growth among believers in the gospel of Jesus Christ, and specifically focuses upon Bible intake, prayer, worship, evangelism, serving, stewardship, fasting, silence, solitude, journaling and learning.
Another book that I own, Spiritual Disciplines Handbook, by Adele Ahlberg Calhoun, contains seventy-five different spiritual disciplines, including well-known practices such as gratitude, meditation, singing, worship, and relationships, along with more fringe and lesser-known habits such as pilgrimages, retreats, mentoring, centering prayer and care of the earth (incidentally, I spent nearly two years taking my family through Adele's book by visiting, discussing, and implementing a new spiritual discipline once every two weeks!).
Why is a regular practice of the spiritual disciplines so important?
It’s quite simple, really: In the same way that mental muscles must be repeatedly challenged to enable your brain to stay young, grow new neurons, and constantly develop and expand—and in the same way that physical muscles must be repeatedly stressed to stay strong, grow new fibers and constantly become more mobile and functional—the spiritual muscles must be consistently trained to be able to experience sustained, productive growth, expansion, and enlightenment. This takes structure, direction, and discipline, which involves more than simply taking a peek at the Bible each morning, saying a quick prayer as you drive your car to work, or ducking into church once a week on Sunday morning.
While these tiny habits aren’t bad, per se, they certainly are not going to transform you into a truly disciplined spiritual warrior who can impact others in a deep and meaningful way, into a well-rounded disciple prepared and equipped to defend the hope that is within you, or into a warrior for God who can withstand the fiery darts of the evil one and the constant temptation that knocks upon the door of your heart each day. In other words, the spiritual disciplines keep you from becoming spiritually unfit, spiritually bereft, and spiritually stagnant. Nobody ever became supremely intelligent by reading Curious George books their entire life, nor did anyone ever become supremely fit by hoisting a dumbbell over their head one time each week.
Does this mean that by disciplining ourselves spiritually, we can toil and sweat our way into heaven with good works?
The spiritual disciplines are not a way to earn our way into heaven, but are instead a means by which we are fully able to experience and enjoy the fruits of the Holy Spirit and to fully receive the grace of God that sanctifies and saves us. As Richard J. Foster writes in his excellent book, Celebration of Discipline:
“The Disciplines allow us to place ourselves before God so that he can transform us…God has ordained the Disciplines of the spiritual life as the means by which we place ourselves where he can bless us.”
When you begin to implement and systematize the spiritual disciplines into your own life, you’ll discover that your entire existence becomes more meaningful and more purposeful. You’ll experience a deep and rich satisfaction that outlasts any runner’s high or exercise endorphin release you might get from a physical workout. You’ll find yourself in a constant, joyful union with God each day, and radiating a distinct peace and hope that others around you sense, feel, and even ask you about.
You are now about to read how to unlock the four powerful spiritual disciplines that I now regularly implement in my own life, and that I’m now blessed to be able to share with you: gratitude, service, self-examination, and purpose. While all the spiritual disciplines are important, these four disciplines are those I’ve found to be most precious and meaningful for me and my family, and quite appropriate for habitually weaving into one’s daily routine: gratitude, service, self-examination, and purpose.
Let’s begin with the first spiritual discipline that is a core element of each morning entry in your journal: gratitude.
Daily Spiritual Discipline 1: Gratitude
In studying the writings and teachings of Dr. Robert Emmons, who I consider to be the world's leading authority on gratitude, I've discovered that throughout history, gratitude has been categorized as an emotion, an attitude, a moral virtue, a habit, a personality trait, and a coping response. The word gratitude itself is derived from the Latin root gratia, which means grace, graciousness, or gratefulness, and all derivatives from this Latin root seem to relate to kindness, generosity, gifts, the beauty of giving and receiving, or the feeling you’ve gotten “something for nothing.”
This means that the object of gratitude is other-directed and that gratitude stems from the perception of a positive personal outcome that is neither deserved or earned and due to the actions of another person. According to Emmons, gratitude results from a two-step process: 1) recognizing that one has obtained a positive outcome, and 2) recognizing that there is an external source for this positive outcome.
The benefits of gratitude are impressive indeed. Let’s first consider the physical benefits of this powerful spiritual discipline. Research has shown that grateful people experience fewer aches and pains and they also report feeling healthier than other people. Not surprisingly, grateful people are also far more likely to take care of their health. They exercise more often and are more likely to attend regular check-ups with their doctors—not because they are sick, but because they have a greater sense of self-awareness and actually care about their bodies.
Sure, some of this can possibly be attributed to the fact that those who are feeling better physically might tend to be more thankful and happy, but this is not always the case. As a matter of fact, studies have shown that when people actively take the time to list the things they are grateful for, they feel far better mentally and physically than participants of the same health status who haven’t done the same. In other words, gratitude’s physical benefits are not only correlational but in many cases causal.
Research also shows that when we simply think about what we are grateful for, the parasympathetic, rest-and-digest, calming component of the nervous system is triggered, producing a host of positive benefits for the body, including decreasing stress-associated cortisol levels and increasing oxytocin, which is a powerful bonding and “feel-good” hormone.
Studies have also shown that people who are more grateful have better heart health, less inflammation, and healthier heart rhythms, and that gratitude can ward off depression, stress, and anxiety, which are all associated with increased risk of heart disease. As a matter of fact, when researchers have performed blood tests for inflammation and plaque buildup in the arteries, they have discovered significantly lower levels among those who had a gratitude practice!
A gratitude practice also helps you sleep better, which has a significant impact on physical health and overall daily function. Multiple studies have shown that those who express gratitude more often sleep better and longer, that writing in a gratitude journal significantly improves sleep quality and that gratitude helps improve quality of sleep and lowers blood pressure.
Gratitude has a significant impact on psychological health too, and reduces not only symptoms of depression, but also a multitude of toxic emotions ranging from envy and resentment to frustration and regret—all while simultaneously increasing levels of overall happiness and life satisfaction! Gratitude also improves mental resilience. For example, research has shown gratitude not only reduces stress, but it also plays a major role in overcoming trauma and post-traumatic stress disorder. This means that being aware of all you have to be thankful for, even during the worst times of your life, fosters an intense resilience that helps you battle stress and get through tough times.
From a psychological standpoint, gratitude can also act as a natural antidepressant. When we take the time to consider what we are grateful for, specific neural circuits are activated that result in increased production of dopamine and serotonin, and these neurotransmitters then travel through neural pathways to the “bliss” center of the brain—similar to the mechanisms of many antidepressants. Gratitude also increases blood flow to and activity in the hypothalamus, the brain section that controls the release of feel-good hormones such as oxytocin, which elicits a positive effect both physically and psychologically.
Fascinatingly, it appears that along with these psychological benefits, gratitude can literally rewire your brain (in a good way). For example, one brain-scanning study demonstrated that even months after a simple, short gratitude writing task, the human brain remains “rewired” to feel extra thankful, with significantly increased activity in the frontal, parietal, and occipital regions of the brain, particularly when a participant gave a gift, or received a gift. Increased sensitivity to other’s feelings and emotions was also observed in the pregenual anterior cingulate, a section of the brain involved in both empathy and in predicting the effects of one’s own actions on other people. The results from these and other brain-scanning studies suggest that the more practice you can give your brain at feeling and expressing gratitude, the more it actually adapts to this mindset, meaning you can think of your brain as having an actual gratitude “muscle” that can be exercised and strengthened. This also means that the more effort you make to feel gratitude in the present, the more the feeling of gratitude will come to you spontaneously in the future.
These data also help explain another established finding: that gratitude can create a positive feedback loop. In other words, the more thankful you feel, the more likely you are to be empathetic, to understand others, and to act pro-socially toward others, which can then cause them to feel grateful and set up a positive cascade that is highly related to the fact that our emotions and beliefs can affect not only our own mind and body but the mind and body of those around us (a topic addressed quite thoroughly in books such as Bruce Lipton’s Biology Of Belief or Dawson Church’s Mind To Matter).
The Bible also teaches that the expression of gratitude is incredibly important. Colossians 3:17 says, “And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him,” and Ephesians 5:20 says, “Thanks always for all things to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.” Paul opens his letters to the Romans, Ephesians, Philippians, Colossians, both the Thessalonians, 2 Timothy and Philemon with clear gratitude by thanking God and expressing gratefulness for the churches to which he is writing.
But even when we understand the actual power of gratitude, the deep, primal physical and psychological roots we seem to have tied to this emotion, and even the commandments from the Bible to be thankful in all, it's often too tempting to shove a gratitude practice to the side and instead prioritize rushing, achieving, worrying, complaining, grumbling, and engaging in every other aspect of life that seems to easily distract us from simply stopping to be grateful. I guarantee that the very best antidote for this common resistance to remember to be grateful is a structured gratitude practice in which you are not simply saying “thank you” to the bank teller or supermarket employee, not only breathing a quick prayer of gratefulness over breakfast, and not smiling and waving at someone who allows you to merge ahead of them in traffic—but instead to have a daily spiritual discipline of actually writing down one thing that you are grateful for, each and every day of the year.
This is exactly why very the first question you should answer each day in your journal is based on gratitude:
“What am I grateful for today?”
Here is how I recommend you go about answering this question and beginning your first journal entry. Keep your journal with a pen or pencil right by your bedside so that gratitude is one of your first impulses when you wake. Let this be the first impulse when you wake up. Along with your Bible, let this journal hold a coveted spot on your bedside dresser, just an arm’s reach away. Within a few days, the habit will become automatic. To begin your gratitude practice, wake up, take a deep breath, close your eyes, and dwell on a positive experience from the day before, the night before, or even that morning. Do this as you’re lying in bed or perhaps sitting in your favorite chair in your bedroom.
As you take a deep breath and close your eyes, ask yourself, “What am I grateful for?” You’ll often find it is the simplest of things: the birds you hear outside, the sunlight streaming through the window, the pitter-patter of a child’s foot going up or down stairs, the soft skin of your lover in bed next to you, or simply the refreshed feeling of having experienced a solid night’s rest. Then, simply write down what it is that first comes to your mind.
Sometimes, things can be a bit more difficult: you don’t have a great night of sleep, you wake up with the sniffles, your phone is blowing up with texts, or it’s a dark, stormy day outside. This is where the magic of gratefulness takes over because you’re suddenly forced to find the silver lining in any situation. For example, two nights ago, I woke up groggy, having gotten just four hours of sleep. The day was cloudy, my wife was out of town with the kids, and I felt less than stellar. But as I took a deep breath and closed my eyes, I realized how grateful I was for the ability to breathe. As I filled my lungs with oxygen, I felt a surge of gratitude for something as simple as being able to take in air through my nose and my mouth. And what did I write down?
“I am grateful for fresh air, the breath of life, and the wonderful complexity of my lungs.”
See? It’s that easy! Within just a few days, this habit—along with the other three spiritual disciplines you’re about to discover—will become automatic.
Daily Spiritual Discipline 2: Service
Service is a spiritual discipline that allows you to help others in a spirit of love, sacrifice, empathy, charity, and goodwill for your fellow humans. In his book, The Spirit of the Disciplines, Dallas Willard describes service this way:
“In service we engage our goods and strength in the active promotion of the good of others and the causes of God in our world. Here we recall an important distinction. Not every act that may be done as a discipline need be done as a discipline. I will often be able to serve another simply as an act of love and righteousness, without regard to how it may enhance my abilities to follow Christ …But I may also serve another to train myself away from arrogance, possessiveness, envy, resentment, or covetousness. In that case, my service is undertaken as a discipline for spiritual life.”
This means that, in a way, the practice of service achieves two goals: both helping others, and also enabling us to take our focus off ourselves and the all-too-common positive daily affirmations of “I’m good, I’m great, I’m wonderful, and gosh-darn-it, people like me!” and instead move through life in a spirit of unselfishness and a focus upon the Golden Rule: loving our neighbors as ourselves and doing unto others as we would have them do unto us.
In his book, Celebration of Discipline, Richard Foster lists activities that fall under the category of the discipline of service, including:
- Hospitality: showing hospitality to one another without grumbling and cheerfully sharing our home with those who may need a meal or a place to stay.
- Listening: loving God by listening to His Word and His still small voice in the silence, and also learning to love others by listening to them with no shame or judgment.
- Bearing others’ burdens: empathizing with one another's hurts and sufferings, weeping with those who weep, and helping others cast their burden, sorrows, and pain upon Jesus.
- Spreading the good news of the Gospel to others: sharing the reason for the love, hope, and joy that is within us so that others can experience the same peace and transformation.
In Luke 22:27, Jesus said: “I am among you as the one who serves.” Committing ourselves to serving others in full presence, love, and humility, just as Jesus did—without seeking any reward other than glorifying God—is indeed a lofty discipline worth making a habit in our lives, don’t you think?
Consider a few other examples from the myriad of verses within the Bible about service:
Galatians 5:14: “For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.”
Acts 20:35: “And remember the words of the Lord Jesus, that He said, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.”
Matthew 10:42: “And whoever gives one of these little ones only a cup of cold water in the name of a disciple, assuredly, I say to you, he shall by no means lose his reward.”
This is why, each morning in your journal, in addition to identifying what you are grateful for, you should also answer the following question:
“Who can I pray for or serve this day?”
As you ponder the answer to this question each morning, I encourage you to spark your imagination with reflective questions such as:
What can I do to make the world a little brighter today, to use my skills and talents to make a difference? Do I know someone that needs encouragement or support? Is there a way to use my skills and unique gifts to contribute meaningfully to the world in a way that satisfies my life’s purpose? What random act of kindness can I do today?
When you set the intention every day to be of service in a clear, specific way, you’ll find your self-examination at the end of each day becomes even more meaningful and inspiring. You will feel a deep, rewarding sense of inner peace and joy when you review any selfless accomplishments at the end of the day.
You’ll also find that the more you engage in service, the more opportunities for service God will bring your way. You will discover yourself meeting more neighbors, inviting old and new friends over for dinner, volunteering in and connecting more to your local community, engaging in deeper relationships with your loved ones, and approaching your entire day with a refreshing, unselfish attitude.
You may have noticed that this particular question, “Who can I pray for or serve this day?” presents you with the option to not only serve others physically but to pray for others too.
Why? There are two reasons. First, when the Lord has placed someone on your heart for you to help, you can certainly take action and do good deeds for that person, but the power of prayer means that you can also pray for that person for a potent “one-two combo” of making a positive impact in the life of someone else and also reaching out to God to bestow His presence upon that person’s life. Second, suppose the person who you are inspired to help that day is somewhere across the country or across the world. You may not be able to physically help them mow their lawn or fill their moving van or eat a home-cooked meal—but you can certainly pray for that person! The simple act of praying for someone God has placed upon your heart is certainly an act of service in and of itself.
Here are a few personal examples of how you can reply to this question in your journal:
When I found out that my dear friend Matt who lives two states away was experiencing a tough time in his relationship with his wife, I wrote down: “Matt.” It’s that simple! Because of that simple note, I was inspired the rest of the day to pray for him.
Another time, I rolled over and looked at my wife lying there next to me. I was not only overwhelmed with a feeling of gratitude about how much she accomplishes for our household and our family, but also overwhelmed with the desire to really “be there for her” that day. So it was her name that I jotted down in my journal, and it was her that I went out of my way to both pray for and serve the rest of the day.
When I realized that our annual church program to feed children at a local poverty-stricken elementary school was kicking off, I wrote down the name of the school principal and said a prayer for him. Later that day I gave him a phone call to see if there was anything I could help with to get the program moving along—all steps I probably would have neglected to take if I had not begun my day with a spirit of service!
As you implement this discipline, service will become a natural part of your life. In the years I spent prior to developing this habit, I noticed a distinct lack of service in my busy, day-to-day routine. Sure, I read my Bible, prayed, had excellent health, took care of my family, and lived what appeared to be a happy and successful life. However, there was a glaring absence of attention to the world’s needs for food and water, a lack of humble willingness to go meet and serve my neighbors, and volunteer for charity work in my community. Now that I start every day by listing one person I can pray for or serve, I've grown into a far less selfish and far more aware, selfless, and serving person. As you journal each day, you'll experience the same edifying transformation.
Having established the understanding and importance of beginning each day by refreshing our spirits with both gratitude and service, let’s now turn from the morning habit of your spiritual discipline journaling to the evening habits that I recommend.
Daily Spiritual Discipline 3: Self-Examination
I first became familiar with the daily practice of self-examination when reading a biography of Benjamin Franklin, and later studying his Book Of Virtues, in which he describes his own journaling system for focusing upon 13 specific daily virtues ranging from patience to honesty to smart spending. As a part of this system, Franklin created his own process of self-examination as a way to cultivate his “passion for virtue” and his focus upon continual moral improvement. In the morning, he would ask himself: “What good shall I do this day?” Then in the evening, he would reflect upon his daily routine by asking himself: “What good have I done today?”.
Years later, while bringing my family through Adele Calhoun’s Spiritual Disciplines Handbook, I became re-familiarized with this evening practice of self-examination, in which Calhoun encourages us to ask questions such as:
- When today did I have the deepest sense of connection with God, others, and myself? When today did I have the least sense of connection?
- What was the most life-giving part of my day? What was the most life-thwarting part of my day?
- Where was I aware of living out of the fruit of the Spirit? Where was there an absence of the fruit of the Spirit?
- What activity gave me the greatest high? Which one made me feel low?
It turns out this spiritual discipline of self-examination, also known as the “Examen,” can be traced in origin back to the ancient philosophers of Greece and Rome, with one of earliest iterations found in the Golden Verses of Pythagoras, which reads:
“Do not welcome sleep upon your soft eyes before you have reviewed each of the day’s deeds three times:
‘Where have I transgressed?
What have I accomplished?
What duty have I neglected?’
Beginning from the first one go through them in detail, and then, If you have brought about worthless things, reprimand yourself, but if you have achieved good things, be glad.”
Later, the Stoic philosopher Seneca wrote of the Roman philosopher Quintus Sextius:
“This was Sextius’s practice: when the day was spent and he had retired to his night’s rest, he asked his mind:
Which of your ills did you heal today?
Which vice did you resist?
In what aspect are you better?
Your anger will cease and become more controllable if it knows that every day it must come before a judge . . .
I exercise this jurisdiction daily and plead my case before myself. When the light has been removed and my wife has fallen silent, aware of this habit that’s now mine, I examine my entire day and go back over what I’ve done and said, hiding nothing from myself, passing nothing by.”
The Bible also contains many verses that encourage a process of self-examination and laying one’s deeds for the day out before God, including 1 Corinthians 11:28: “But a man must examine himself, and in so doing he is to eat of the bread and drink of the cup.”; Psalm 139:24: “And see if there be any hurtful way in me, and lead me in the everlasting way.”; Psalm 139:23: “Search me, O God, and know my heart; try me and know my anxious thoughts.”; Job 13:23: “How many are my iniquities and sins? Make known to me my rebellion and my sin.”; and Psalm 26:2: “Examine me, O Lord, and try me; test my mind and my heart.”
This is why each evening, you will follow in the path of Benjamin Franklin, along with these ancient Stoics, philosophers, religious leaders, and Scriptural teachings and answer the following two questions in your journal:
“What good have I done today?”
“What could I have done better today?”
When I first began this evening process of self-examination, I was surprised at the results, and I suspect you will be too. While I often end a day with a general sense of whether the day went poorly or the day went well, until I actually began to examine my thoughts and actions for the day, I found I never really understood why I was peaceful or stressed, joyful or melancholy, and focused or scattered. By beginning to take the time to review everything I did, felt, and experienced for the day, I was able to begin identifying when I was using my time well and when I wasn’t, whether I had set up schedules and habits that allowed for deeper union with God and others and whether I hadn’t, and what type of practices, mood states and situations or environments allowed me to live out my life’s purpose in full presence and selfless love, and which didn’t. Each day transformed from a confusing and difficult-to-decode blur to a clear and meaningful twenty-four-hour learning experience.
As you experience the same transformation, you will begin to identify patterns in your daily routine that can be changed for the better, habits that should be kept and habits that should be halted, and even people who drain your energy and people who fill you with peace, love, and joy. You’ll discover those things you should have accomplished yet didn’t, and those things you may have perhaps wasted your time on that you can avoid in the future. Did you rush mindlessly through each meal without nary a thought of the blessing and wonder of God’s creation of food? Did you skip a workout to spend an extra hour at the office, or did you take time for self-care and self-love? Did you spend much of your day in reactive and draining rather than productive and energizing tasks? Was your screentime and consumption inordinately high relative to your productivity and creation? Were you fully present or distracted and absent in your conversations?
When paired with a morning discipline of gratitude and service, and the final spiritual discipline of purpose that you are about to discover, your evening practice of self-examination will be physically, mentally, and spiritually transformative; and, through incremental improvements, will make you a more impactful individual who never ends a day feeling as though you’re wasting your time or not living out the full purpose for your life.
Daily Spiritual Discipline 4: Purpose
The Okinawans refer to purpose as ikigai (translated as “reason for being”) and Nicoyans as plan de vida (“reason to live”). Interestingly, these regions are both known as “Blue Zones,” or longevity hotspots with a disproportionately high number of centenarians, or people over the age of 100 years who still live healthy, active, productive, robust, and purposeful lives.
Research has indeed proven that people who know their life and have a clear purpose for which they wake each morning live longer lives. One 11-year long study that investigated the correlation between having a sense of purpose and longevity showed that those who expressed having a clear purpose in life lived longer than those who did not and also stayed immersed in activities and communities that allowed them to be involved in fulfilling that purpose.
I recommend you not only know your purpose in life, but also that you be able to state it in one succinct sentence.
So how exactly does one identify their purpose in life? I've studied up on this quite a bit, and there are plenty of purpose-finding materials and resources I've thoroughly read and reviewed, with some of my favorites including:
- Claim Your Power by Mastin Kipp
- Limitless by Jim Kwik
- Personality Isn't Permanent by Benjamin Hardy
- The Values Factor by John DiMartini
- Don't Waste Your Life by John Piper
- True North: Discover Your Authentic Leadership by Bill George
- Websites such as Life Purpose Quiz, TheWhyStack.com, StartWithWhy.com, and WhyInstitute.com
Geez. That's a lot of content about purpose.
So do you now need to drop everything and spend the next three months of your life reading all that?
You'd probably come out the other side a better, more purposeful person.
But one area in which I think I can do you a convenient service is to succinctly distill into a few key tips what I personally learned from each of these books and websites, and what I see as recurring themes in most purpose-finding literature and resources like those cited above. I can guarantee that if you use the following steps and tips I've created to identify your purpose, you'll have harnessed 80% of the goodness from those resources above and be left with the option to delve into them on your own free time, if you so desire.
So here we go. I recommend that as you read the steps below, you sit down with a journal and jot down your replies with a pen or pencil and paper. You may even want to print this article and tuck it into a journal so you can step away from the computer, e-reader, or smartphone so you're in a different set and setting with fewer distractions and notifications as you complete these exercises.
How To Find Your Purpose In Life, Step 1: What did you like to do when you were a kid?
You were born with a unique set of skills and talents—things you tend to be good at based on the way your brain is wired, the way your genetics are assembled, and the way your body is built. As a result of these nature-based traits, along with nurture-based influence from the family and households you grew up in, you likely tend to enjoy and be good at specific activities.
For example, I grew up absolutely loving reading books, writing stories, learning via documentaries, courses, and movies, teaching what I learned to others, singing songs, speaking in front of people, creating art and new ideas, and competing in sports and other games such as chess and video games.
So my own personal purpose statement is…
…”To Read & Write, Learn & Teach, Sing & Speak, Compete & Create In Full Presence & Selfless Love, To The Glory Of God.”
See how that weaves in many of the same things that made me excited when I was a kid? Those are the activities that still ignite my joy and put me into a state of flow.
If you're a bit foggy about what you were actually like and what you enjoyed to do when you were a little boy or a little girl, then, if your parents or relatives who were close to you at that time are still alive, invite those folks out to dinner or a coffee. When you sit down with them, ask them one question:
“What was I like when I was a kid?”
That's it. Then prepare to sit back, listen, and take notes.
How To Find Your Purpose In Life, Step 2: What puts you “in the zone” now?
In positive psychology, a flow state, also known as “being in the zone,” is a mental state in which you are performing an activity where you are fully immersed in a feeling of energized focus, full involvement, enjoyment, and presence in the process of that activity.
For example, if I sit down in front of a blank Word document on my computer and begin to write, my concept of time vanishes. I'll write for hours. Words just flow out of me. I don't think about food or drink, and I'm often oblivious to everything else going on around me, even if I'm in a busy coffee shop. I've always been wired that way. My wife, on the other hand, absolutely detests writing and would rather walk on a bed of nails than pen an essay. However, if you plant her in front of a blank canvas and give her a set of paintbrushes and oil, she'll absolutely bloom, painting for hours on end as she enters the zone with a satisfied smile on her face. (I, on the other hand, will cringe as I forcefully attempt to “make art happen.”)
So what puts you in the zone at this point in your life? Writing? Art? Craftsmanship like woodworking or building something with your hands? Gardening? Exercise? Programming?
Identify those activities, and weave them into your purpose statement. I guarantee you'll find overlap between those activities and what you enjoyed doing when you were a kid.
How To Find Your Purpose In Life, Step 3: What naturally comes easy to you?
This may seem a bit redundant with what you enjoyed doing when you were a kid and what puts you in the zone now, but it's important to take into account because if your purpose statement is built around those activities that naturally come easy to you, you'll be highly self-actualized as you live out that purpose statement. Self-actualized people are those who are significantly fulfilled, driven, and joyful in their day-to-day activities. For self-actualized people living out their true purpose in life, a day of work often feels like a day of play.
And guess what? There's absolutely nothing to be ashamed about if work comes easy to you. Often, we have a belief pattern, perhaps influenced by the traditional so-called Puritanical work ethic philosophy* that a day of work needs to be a day of drudge, drenched in blood, sweat, and tears; and we frequently believe that only at the end of a day of work can we take a deep sigh of relief and “play” (although we're typically so exhausted by the hard work that play is the equivalent of junk food binges, video games, and Netflix).
But, as Mark Twain said, if you “find a job you enjoy doing, you will never have to work a day in your life.”
Others have shared Twain's thoughts. Here's what Stephen King has to say:
“Yes, I've made a great deal of dough from my fiction, but I never set a single word down on paper with the thought of being paid for it … I have written because it fulfilled me. Maybe it paid off the mortgage on the house and got the kids through college, but those things were on the side–I did it for the buzz. I did it for the pure joy of the thing. And if you can do it for the joy, you can do it forever.”
Steve Jobs noted that:
“Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do.”
Then there's Thomas Edison, who said:
“I never did a day's work in my life, it was all fun.”
You get the idea. Work can just flow from you. When it does, and when it feels like play, that's another sign you're living out your true purpose. Sure, there will be times when you experience what Steven Pressfield refers to as the “resistance”—rationalizing, fear and anxiety, distractions, the voice of an inner critic, and other elements that keep you from creating your authentic art, whatever that creation of art might be—but this resistance doesn't indicate you're not living out your purpose. It's just the day-to-day temptation towards laziness or fear of the unknown, failure, or embarrassment that we all face. Learn to identify the resistance to living your purpose, embrace the resistance as a sign that you're engaged in something impactful, then press on (and definitely read Steven's book Do The Work!).
*A quick note regarding the Puritanical work ethic. I don't mean to throw the Puritans under the bus. In the book Exploring New England's Spiritual Heritage author Garth Rosell describes how the Puritans were encouraged to identify their purpose in life with much prayer and reflection, to take into account their natural gifts and inclinations, to seek the advice and confirmation their friends and family, and to consider the practical needs of the community in which they lived.
Interestingly, those who were gifted for and inclined to “sundry callings” (the equivalent of a blue-collar worker, such as farming, construction, etc.—which in modern days could be the warehouse worker, firefighter, construction worker, custodian, etc.) must seek to discover which of these callings is “the best.” Similarly, those who were privileged to study in what was called “the schools of the prophets” and at liberty to become school-masters, physicians, lawyers, or ministers were considered to have a special obligation to seek among these available options their very “best calling.”
Regardless of what career was chosen by these Puritans, their callings were encouraged to conform to three basic principles. First, to serve the public good and to seek one another's welfare. Second, to have “gifts of body and mind” suitable to that calling (although they also believed rightly that when God calls a person to a particular task, he will also provide the appropriate gifts to fulfill it). Third, to be sure that calling is from God, by relying upon prayer, the guidance of the Bible, the counsel of friends, the encouragement of the community and the existence of an open door opportunity.
If that vocation was considered to be homely, boring or ordinary, they focused upon performing that task nonetheless to the glory of God and the good of others. After all, Jesus himself girded himself with a towel and washed His disciples' feet. If a Puritan was anxious about whether or not their work was successful, they were encouraged to “cast their burden upon the Lord” and to find contentment whatever the circumstance.
So ultimately, while I don't think that work, especially working in our true purpose and calling, needs to be viewed as a daily drudge of sweat, blood and tears, I do agree with this Puritan philosophy that no matter what your work is, it should be chosen carefully according to your unique gifts and the counsel of God, friends, and family, be done in full excellence, with a spirit of love towards others with no complaining—and, finally should “multiple purposes” be available to one, the best purpose is the one most highly suited to your gifts.
How To Find Your Purpose In Life, Step 4: Summarize your purpose into one single, succinct statement that you can memorize.
This next step will take practice.
Write down all those things you loved to do when you were a kid, those activities that put you into the flow now, and what naturally comes easy to you.
Then connect the dots and try to express all those elements into one single, succinct purpose statement that you can easily memorize.
Again, my purpose statement is…
…”To Read & Write, Learn & Teach, Sing & Speak, Compete & Create In Full Presence & Selfless Love, To The Glory Of God.”
Before that, it was…
…”To Empower People To Live A More Adventurous, Joyful & Fulfilling Life“.
Keep your purpose statement specific, precise, concise, clear, and goal-oriented. Write it down. It might be two to three paragraphs at first. Then a paragraph. Then a couple of sentences. Then one sentence. Refine it. Edit it. Write it again. Have no guilt about changing it a dozen times if need be. But you must, must, must make it short and easy to memorize so that you can quickly recall it and rely upon it when the bullets of the matrix of life are flying at you and you need to remind yourself of why you are doing what you are doing.
Finally, understand that your purpose statement can change over time as your passions and personality changes. C.S. Lewis, one of my favorite authors of all time, once said “You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” So your purpose statement during this chapter of the book that is your life may change in the next chapter of your life. That's OK. Don't feel guilty, flaky, or schizophrenic about that. Be open to change and do so by sitting down with your purpose statement on at least a yearly basis—reviewing it, analyzing it, praying over it, meditating upon it, and questioning it to get clarity on whether it still fully aligns with what your soul knows to be true. Run it by friends and family members to get an objective opinion. Do that the first time you write your purpose statement and continue to do it for every future purpose statement you create.
How To Find Your Purpose In Life, Step 5: Love God & love others with your purpose.
Finally, no matter how good your purpose statement is, it will never be truly fulfilling or impactful if it's all about you.
If the motivation behind and reason for your purpose statement is to make more money, own a better car, have a nicer home, attract successful people, run faster, get stronger or achieve, achieve, achieve, then you'll never truly be happy, and in the end, your purpose will feel selfish, meaningless, empty, and unfulfilling.
Instead, once you have written your purpose statement sentence, you must go forth and love others with your purpose. Bless others selflessly with your purpose. Change the world with your purpose because you love people, not because you want to fulfill Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs or scratch your own back. Follow the Golden Rule with your purpose. Pursue your purpose with zero selfishness and in full love for your fellow human beings, and, trust me, the rewards back to you will naturally come in due time. But the focus of living out your purpose statement should not be on your own happiness, but rather the happiness of others. That's what will truly make you happy.
Furthermore, don't just love others with your purpose, but also love God with your purpose. After all, you were created a unique being in the image of God, and one of the greatest things you can do with your purpose is to wake up each morning and, as one of my trusted mentors once told me, “Do the very best thing that day with whatever God has put on your plate.” By doing your work and living out your purpose each day with supreme excellence, you'll magnify and glorify the mightiest Being this world knows, and that's the greatest love and greatest gift you can give back to the Creator who put you here in the first place and bestowed upon you the unique skills, body, and brain you've been blessed with.
One of my favorite preachers, John Piper, puts it this way:
“We are not called to be microscopes. We are called to be telescopes…There is nothing and nobody superior to God. And so the calling of those who love God is to make his greatness begin to look as great as it really is. That’s why we exist, why we were saved, as Peter says in 1 Peter 2:9, “You are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.”
So our whole duty in life, therefore, can be summed up like this: Feel, think, and act in a way that will make God look as great as he really is. Be a telescope for the world of the infinite starry wealth of the glory of God.
So now it's simply time to calendar a time with your journal to address these thought exercises:
- What did you like to do when you were a kid?
- What puts you “in the zone” now?
- What naturally comes easy to you?
- Summarize your purpose into one single, succinct statement that you can memorize.
- Love God & love others with your purpose.
At the end of each day, you should have a special place in your journal to revisit this purpose statement with one final question that pairs perfectly with your practice of self-examination:
“What is one way that I lived my purpose statement today?”
For example, if you recall, my own purpose statement is to “To Read & Write, Learn & Teach, Sing & Speak, Compete & Create In Full Presence & Selfless Love, To The Glory Of God.” So at the end of a busy day of productive work, time with family, outdoor adventures, or traveling, I might write:
“I studied up on what the Bible says about happiness, and began to write an essay on my website that teaches people how to find more joy through connection with God.”
“I taught the person sitting on the airplane next to me how to figure out the type of diet that would work best for them, and stayed present without being distracted by the entertainment screen.”
“I completed my difficult kettlebell workout with discipline, focus, and patience as though my body was a temple of God, stamped with His image.”
You get the idea. As you revisit your purpose statement each evening and identify one situation in which you fully lived that purpose statement, it will become an integral and natural part of your core activities to use your unique skills to make maximum impact for good and for God on this planet with each hour, minute, and second of the day.
Congratulations. You are now equipped with an understanding of the spiritual disciplines of gratitude, service, self-examination, and purpose, and ready to begin your daily habit of integrating these disciplines within a journaling practice. Be sure that as you move forward into your first morning and evening of journaling that you keep your journal at your bedside with a pen so that it (preferably along with reading your Bible and praying) is the first thing you tend to in the morning, and again in the evening.
When possible, journal in the same place each time, preferably when relaxing in your bed in the morning and evening, or in a chair in your bedroom, or sitting at the kitchen table, or even in a peaceful outdoor setting. You might also find that taking a deep, settling breath when you open your journal is effective to help you relax and find inner stillness and focus. I personally wake each morning, complete my gratitude and service journaling, and say a prayer then go about my morning while listening to a sermon, a devotional or an audio reading of the Bible, then in bed in the evening, read my Bible and complete my self-examination and re-visitation of my purpose statement, followed by another prayer.
As you answer each question, don’t feel pressure to write impressively or wax theologically, nor to pressure yourself with a feeling that you must spend inordinate amounts of time journaling. It should only take a few minutes to answer all the questions in your journal (I personally spend about five minutes in the morning and five minutes in the evening completing my own journal entries). Just be truthful, be succinct, and speak from your heart.
Ultimately, I’m overjoyed and, of course, grateful to be able to share my journaling technique with you! As I mentioned in the introduction to this article, while there is no physical journal per se that one can currently purchase to incorporate the disciplines you're about to discover, all you'll need for now is a simple blank journal you can devote to these four spiritual disciplines. Then, within the next six months, I plan to produce and publish a Spiritual Disciplines Journal that will eventually replace the Christian Gratitude Journal I published a couple years ago, and that new Spiritual Disciplines Journal will weave in all four spiritual disciplines you've just discovered. You can click here to subscribe to my newsletter for notification of when that's ready.
In the meantime, leave your questions, comments, and feedback below, along with your own journaling tips to share, and I'll look forward to seeing your thoughts!